Post # 1
Ok, so my parents are divorced and basically hate each other. My dad was a major part of my life for a long time, but then he moved away and things kind of fell apart. However, I did want him to walk me down the isle, and he has agreed and is going to. I felt kind of bad for my mom though because she did do a huge chunk of raising me and my siblings by herself, so I decided it would be nice for them both to give me away. My mom doesn’t really want to walk down the isle though, so what is the best course of action? Should she be seated and come up once my dad and I get there, should she be standing there waiting? Should she be seated and I bring her up? Should I stop next to her and have her join us the rest of the way? lol Basically, what would make this whole thing flow the best, without her actually walking down the entire isle with me?
Post # 3
Could she be walked down the aisle as mom’s usually are, and then when you come down the aisle with your dad, your mom stands to join you and hugs/kisses you to give you away also?
I would love my mom to walk down the aisle with me and my dad, because I’m really close to her and she’s basically been my honorary MOH through all of this… but I think my dad would be really hurt because it’s his shining moment, and one he’s been both dreading and waiting for forever… I’d be way too worried I’d offend him if I asked. (He’s a sensitive guy!) But I think that is a nice gesture and compromise, and one I might consider having my mom do as well!
Post # 4
Usually the weddings I’ve been to, everyone stands and watches the bride walk down the aisle. So if your mom has already gotton to the front row, once you reach the front and everyone sits she can remain standing. Are they saying anything when you reach the end of the aisle? You could have your mom say something. You know, like traditionally they’ll say "her mother and I do" when the officiant asks who presents the bride. So you could tailor that to your situation with your mom.
Is it completely out of the question to have them walk on either side of you? If you let them know it’s important, they might be willing to do that.
Post # 5
Mary Alice has a great idea- everyone will be standing when you are your dad walk down the aisle, and your mom will probably be right on the aisle in the front row, so it should be easy for her to step into the aisle with you and your dad once you reach the end. How would you have the wording go, though? Would your dad say "her mother and I do" when asked who gives the bride away? Or would you like your mom to be to one to speak, that way she gets that glory and your dad gets to physically walk you down the aisle?
Post # 6
oooo, I forgot everyone will be standing!! Totally not something I had thought about lol So yeah, that will work. for her to just meet us like that. As for the wording, when the officiant asks who gives me away, they will both say in unison "We do"
Post # 7
Dont worry about it being odd that someone stands up to join or sits down etc. Every ceremony is unique and as long as everyone knows where they go when, it wont look odd at all.
Post # 8
I agree with Mary Alice’s suggestion.