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mom and dad to walk me down aisle?

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    honeybun    June 5, 2010   VA

    For those of you who had both mom and dad walk you down the aisle, what made you decide to do it that way?  I'm considering it, because my dad and I barely even have a relationship and my mom and I are super-close.  Dad and I didn't talk for years, and even now have a really strained relationship and only talk a couple times a year.  Seems ridiculous for him to give me away, since he has barely been part of my life since they got divorced when I was 12.  If I thought I could get away with it without causing drama, I would have ONLY my mom walk me down.

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    My dad and I don't get along well, so I thought having my mom as a buffer would be nice.  Turned out that she probably saved the walk since he balked at the last minute.  If I had it to do over again, I would have just walked by myself.

     
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    CheesetomyWhine    10/30/10   Rhode Island

    Hi, I don't know if this is what you're looking for but i'm having my uncle and a good family friend walk me down the aisle. My daddy passed away when I was 12 and my mum is worried that she'd trip so she asked if she could not walk me down. Anyways I'm choosing to have my uncle and his close friend because they have been very supportive and I felt that I wanted them both to be with me on my special day. So to you, I would probably just have whomever you are most comfortable with walking you. Two people is not a bad thing, but neither is an awkward time for you on your most special day. I hope that helped even a bit!

     
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    MissNoche    June 2010   Boston

    I too am strongly considering it, and I have a great relationship with both my parents.  I just think it's unfair that the father gets all of the recognition, with the aisle and the father/daughter dance.  I couldn't tell for sure, but it seemed my mother was a little jealous at my sister's wedding that my father got all the honerary roles, so I would like to do something special for her.  In fact, I was thinking of starting a thread myself :)  I say go for it, have both do it!  I think it's a great idea, it's a sweet gesture for you mom, and she really deserves to give you away.  And since keeping the wedding day stress free is super important, I think, having your dad walk you also will be the most stress-free option.

     
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    honeybun    June 5, 2010   VA

    Thanks ladies - I have no idea what my mom will say, but I think I am going to ask her!  Even if she doesn't want to walk down the aisle (she's worse about having all eyes on her than I am!) I think she will still love the fact that I asked.

    And this is a very silly question, but what do you do with your bouquet if you have someone on each side of you?  LOL 

     
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    EK    October 12, 2008   Seattle, WA

    In Jewish ceremonies, it's traditional to have both parents walk you down the aisle. In terms of your bouquet, your parents each link to your elbow so you still have both hands to hold your bouquet.

     
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    Miss Bravo    October 31, 2009   LA

    Both my mom and dad are walking me down the aisle because I am very close to both of them :) Just before we part, my mom is going to take the single rose that she is carrying and place it in my bouquet as they give me away to my future husband :)

     
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    Gilneas    October 10, 2010   NJ

    Here's a photo of my best friend being escorted down the aisle by both of her parents, to get an idea of how to hold the bouquet (she did hold hers a little high, though).

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    Chachacha    June 2010   Minneapolis, MN

    I think it's a great idea to have both your mother and father walk you down the aisle. I'm not sure if I'm going to do that, yet as my father is very traditional and I think he would feel bad if I chose to have both my parents walk me down as opposed to just having him do it. I think he is looking forward to walking me down by himself.

     
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    texasmeredith      

    I think its sweet you want to include your Mom too.  If your Mom isn't big on the idea of walking you down the aisle, consider walking down the aisle with out an escort.  A friend of mine did this and she looked beautiful!

     

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