Mom and MIL vent…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
Member
9149 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

This happened to us a few times where our families argued over dibs on holidays.  Eventually we decided to “strike” and stay home for a year’s worth of holidays.  Now when we decide where we are spending the holidays, nobody says “boo” because they know we can always choose to stay home.

Post # 4
Bee
31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - The Florian Gardens

Hugs! It’s always hard to juggle both families. Mother’s day is a pretty special so it’s always difficult to find time to make everyone happy. Don’t take it personally, it’s not fair for them to make you choose. Honestly I think you should see your mom, and have your DH see his mom. Easy peasy and keeps everyone happy. 

Post # 6
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2616 posts
Sugar bee

For Mother’s Day my FI and I go solo to see our own mothers. It makes life easier. There is no way my mum would go celebrate with his either, (even though that would be the easiest). Mom and MIL stress is the worst!!! I’m sorry you are feeling it.

I do feel that Mother’s Day should be spent with your own mother.

Post # 7
Bee
31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - The Florian Gardens

missjewels:  Oh I can’t even imagine! I think we have all been there at one point or another. 

Post # 9
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2529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

beachbride1216:  That’s a good idea I may have to steal from you one day in the future.

Post # 10
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1692 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

missjewels:  As much as I agree with this comment, I have to say, good fkn luck with that.  I find it actually hysterical how much me being a mom doesn’t matter to mine. Mother’s day is ALL about her you see, not her own mom, not her sister who is a mom, not me.  I’m afraid to tell you, it doesn’t get better.

Post # 11
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1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Why can’t you take both of them out for dinner on neutral territory?  Or have them at your home?  Is there a history with them that they don’t like each other?

Post # 12
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1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

missjewels:  I think you caught your mom at a bad time and she just wasn’t in the mood to think about logistics of Mother’s Day. It’s still 2 weeks away, you have time to figure out a plan. Your MIL can’t call dibs on anything.

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