Post # 1
I am currently five and a half weeks pregnant. Of course we told our parents right away because we would want their support if anything happened, and we were just so dang excited!
Long story short, I was looking at my mother’s Pinterest, she now has a PUBLIC board “MyRealName’s future little one” pinned with tonnes of newborn ideas. I am happy that she is excited but I am also kind of pissed off. We were VERY explicit in swearing everyone to secrecy as we are not letting the cat out of the bag until Novemeber when we are through the first trimester….. then my mom goes and announces it on Pinterest!
I have no idea who her ‘followers’ are and if they are anyone that I know in real life.
My question is should I say something (maybe suggest she turn it into a private board until Novemeber) or should I just leave it and hope that no one notices?
Post # 3
I don’t think it would be unreasonable of you to ask that she either remove your real name or make the board private.
Post # 4
say something FOR SURE! i would snap on my mom! and make her delete it!
Post # 5
I would tell her she should understands, I pray for a healthy pregnancy but I wouldnt announce to anyone either until I was out of the first trims and maybe not until the second
Post # 6
She may not be savy enough to know public vs. private. Or maybe she knews but it just slipped her mind. I would calmly ask that she change it to private, but in the conversation, you may also want to express how excited you are that she is excited and maybe one or two of her pinned ideas that you liked.
Post # 7
HAHAHA MOMS! I would just ask her to make it private for now. I’m sure you will have to talk her through it.
Post # 8
@PoppyH: This sounds like something my mom would do! Definitely say something to her.
Post # 9
I understand you wanting her to make it private.
Unfortunately I’m fairly certain once you make a board, it cannot be set to private. You have to make it private to begin with. I no longer have the option to make my boards private, but when I first created a board for my baby I set it to private until we announced the pregnancy.
She would have to delete the entire board… Or maybe make a new private board, and then repin everything from that board to the new private one… and then delete the first board. But then people might notice she deleted it and be more curious. Hopefully people just see it as a “future” thing maybe, and don’t assume it’s because you are pregnant.
I’m not sure but those are the options I see!
ETA: changing the name of the board would be the other good idea!!!!
Post # 10
@PoppyH: I’d absolutely suggest she make it a private board. maybe she isn’t aware of how it all works! I’d be pissed if my mom did that (and she did make a semi-ambiguous facebook post that I made her take down) after promising to maintain the secret.
Post # 11
Make her delete immediately! Arrrgh. Not cool.
Post # 12
I think it’s reasonable to ask her to remove it. 5.5 weeks is very early.
Also, the name of the board is subject to interpretation–if anyone were to ask about it, she could always say you’re planning to have children SOME day, so she’s just excited and pinning things now. It’s a bit of a stretch but might work!
Post # 13
aww she was just excited, she might not have realized that there is way to make it private. Just talk to her. GL
Post # 14
I bet she doesn’t realize everyone can see it. Maybe she can either make it private or change the name to Future Grandchildren or something.
Post # 15
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I would check out who is following her on Pinterest – often Mom’s just don’t really know much about this stuff…
If she doesn’t have any followers ask her to rename the Board…
If she does, then I would go over and show her how to make the board private.
I think people might get suspicious that you’re pregnant if they saw the Board, but they might think that she’s just excited for the ‘one day’ grandchildren
Congratulations by the way!
Post # 16
Yes, she can set it to private after the fact – she doens’t have to make a new one.
Honestly? Most people don’t pay attention to other’s board’s names. Still, I’d ask her to change it to “For My Future Grandkids” or something, at least it’s less suspicious.
I mean, if my FMIL knew how to work Pinterest (or the internet) I think that’s pretty much all it would be… stuff for her non-existant grandkids.