Post # 1
So a few of you know I was having a bit of dress regret earlier this week. Basically I was getting tired of being told how tacky I am. Well I made the HUGE mistake of hinting that I may not be as happy with my dress as I originally was anymore. I didn’t flat out say I was giving my dress up but more “I really like my dress, but there are so many pretty ones out there its hard not to get distracted.”
Well my mom and step sisters took this as a cue to run out and buy me a new one 1) without asking 2) without including me and 3) without even telling me first. Their reasoning was “Well since you got such an awful and tacky dress the first time around we thought you should just let us do it.” So basically my judgement isn’t good enough to pick my own dress. I’m not intellegent enough to make that kind of a decision.
This is the dress they picked
While it is pretty it is completely not my style, wont fit the drama associated with my theme (steampunk masquerade) and honestly looks awful on me. Empire waists just don’t suit my body very well. The dress is very pretty, just not on me.
But its so much better since its not to tacky and didn’t come from china according to them…
Oh and to top it all off they let me know that I “can pay them back when I get my next paycheck”. So now not only do I have a dress I don’t like, that I wasn’t even told I was getting, but I have to pay them $450 that I don’t have.
This just hurts. I mean I liked my dress. I don’t have the money to pay them back. And its just awesome that I’m not smart enough to pick a “good” dress according to my family….
Post # 3
“but I have to pay them $450 that I don’t have”
Uhhhh, no you don’t. Tell them good luck returning it but that you’re not paying a dime for a dress that you don’t like and didn’t ask for.
What did your other dress look like?
Post # 4
Ugh! What a terrible situation to be placed in. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. i would find a way to sit them down (if they live in the same city) and tell them that while you appreciate their thoughtfulness, you don’t like the dress they selected and ask them to return it. Perhaps invite them out with you for another dress shopping excursion?
Post # 5
UHHHHHHHH….. I don’t know you IRL, but that’s not your style AT ALL. Your other dress is seriously beautiful. Why in the world would they buy you a dress without asking? I mean everyone “helps” in different ways, and I can see the thought, but they should have asked you first! The dress is beautiful, but so not you.
Post # 6
Your first dress is perfect for what I know about the theme of your wedding. Tell them to return the second dress. Really? What were they thinking?!
Post # 7
OMG I can’t believe this happend to you. I would not be happy! Whatever you decide make sure you are happy. If you don’t like the dress…don’t wear it! Its your day and you will not get it back. Good luck
Post # 8
That is such BS, they go out without you and buy a dress and then expect you to pay for it? No. Tell them “Thanks but no thanks” and let them try to return it.
Who does this?!?
Post # 9
Uhhh…I really like your original dress. I really do NOT like the DB one. You certainly do not owe anyone any money for a dress you don’t want. If you don’t feel comfortable stiffing them for it, at least exchange it for a reception dress. I would never mention it to them, but you will have to get your hands on the receipt.
Post # 10
Wow! Who does that!? While their hearts are in the right place, but still. Can the dress be returned? Sorry that happened to you.
Post # 11
I looked at your old post and I LOVE the dress you have and I LOVE the other dress you were thinking about. They are NOTHING like the dress your family bought. Don’t pay for it! I know this is hard because I have a really hard time telling family no when it comes to the wedding but since you had nothing to do with their decision it is a no brainer. Let it be their problem.
Post # 12
I cannot consider their gesture as thoughtful, in fact I think it’s quite the opposite….. and especially when they say that you have to pay them back for a dress that you weren’t even asked before they decided to buy it…!!!I mean it’s absolutely illogical not to mention offending….Just explain to them that you love your dress and that the fact that was made in China does not lessen its beauty and more importantly the way it makes you feel when you wear it.Be confident with your taste and choice!Your dress is beautiful and I think that it really suits your theme!
Post # 13
Wow, that is so out of line. I would tell them to return that dress asap. I love your other dress. You don’t have to feel bad about this at all, they should have never done anything without consulting you first.
Post # 14
I know not my style at all. It’s pretty, but I see that being used in a day time garden wedding with a pastel color pallette, not a night time Venetian masquerade done in dark reds and purples. Plus empire waists make me look pregnant. Don’t know why I just don’t think they work well with my body. And it doesn’t even match my shoes and accessories. I’d have to buy new ones. They did that on purpose so I’d have to change my whole theme. They don’t like any of it. As for returning it it was on sale so even if I had the reciept (which my mom tore up) I don’t think I could.
I am writing from my phone but I posted my original here http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/jeff-liu-review
Post # 15
Ohhh ok I thought so, I just didn’t know if you’d decided to switch to the antique lacey one. If your mom tore up the reciept that was her own dumb decision because now she’s out $450. Oops!
Post # 16
This is mind boggling. They went without even telling you or consulting you, and on top of that, insulted your vision for your wedding day. It’s really none of their business. I don’t see how they can think you’re in any way responsible for paying for the dress. I would honestly tell them to shove it. It’s your day, not theirs, and you wear what you want.