(Closed) Mom as MOH?

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Since you asked for opinions, I think it is weird when mom’s are BMs or MOHs – they are already in the bridal party as "the mother of the bride."  They have a very special and unique role.  To be fair, I also think it is weird when groom’s have their dad as a GM or Best Man.  Weird may be the wrong word… inappropriate?  And I don’t just think it is "weird" for the bride and groom to ask them to take these roles, I think the parents are being weird for accepting.  AND if you brother is a GM, his sister should be a BM.  Weddings are about family, and it would be a good way to start your new family by including the sister.

Post # 4
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388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

TOTALLY ask your mom to be your MOH.  Guys ask their dads to be Best Man all the time.  Don’t add a person just to be a filler in a bridesmaids dress.  If your mom is the closest, it’s entirely appropriate.

The ceremony isn’t that long, so your stepdad shouldn’t mind too much.  The sentiment of having your mom stand up for you should outweigh that.

Only thing to consider is to then make sure that your mom sits w/ her husband at the reception, whether it’s at the head table or whether you decide to mix the bridal party into different tables.  Good luck!

Post # 5
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Newbee

I think you should include your FSIL instead of your mom.  It’s weird when parents are in the bridal party-with the exception of in some Southern circles where its customary for the father to stand up as best man.  I’m not really close with my FSIL, but she’s in my bridal party because she’ll be family then.  Also, do you think your mom would be willing to wear a bridesmaid-type dress?  Would her dress blend with the rest of the bridal party?

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

My mom is my MOH and we’re having a wonderful time of it!!!! I totally dissagree that it is inappropraite, that’s just my opinion. My mom is the only girlfriend that I’ve had all my life. Other friends have come in and out of my life. I can’t think of anyone else I’d rather have up there. I did take her dress shopping and make sure she was comfortable in the dress. I knew my other BM would look great in anything so I pretty much let my mom make the decision.

The other option would be to have your brother be your "man of honor" or "bride’s man" to even out the numbers. It’s becoming more and more popular.

I certainly wouldn’t encourage you to include his sister. If they are close and he wants her to stand with him then she can be a groomswoman. I’m of the opinion that it is an honor to stand with someone as they commit their life to another and should not be taken lightly. I find it similar to giving birth. I wouldn’t want just anyone in the delivery room with me, only those who are closest and I feel support me fully. Again, it’s just my opinion though.

Let me know if you want any more specific information on how we’re making the MOH/MOB thing work! Good luck!!! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2007

I have the same relationship with my mom and I’ve been telling her since I was like 14 that she was going to be my maitron of honor.  Like bonniebelle101 said she’s the only girlfriend that’s been through it all with me 🙂  She really is my bestest bff – and it’s that who your MOH should be??

Go for it!!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

I am not sure why anyone would think it is strange and weird, but, to each his own!  Anyway, my FSIL had her mother as her MOH.  and no one questioned it.  Also, keep in mind that it does not have to be even on each side!  I have 3 ladies and 2 guys.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

go with what floats your boat.

IMHO the side do not need to be even. but i’m biased. i currently have 6 bms and FI has 1gm. lol…..

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