Mom being strange

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@searock: how can people here possibly know whay your mother is doing what she is doing? but that said, I dont’ find her behavior weird.

Post # 4
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My mom tried to shove a wedding-related check in my handbag, and when that didn’t work, my shoes. She mailed it to me when I wouldn’t take it in person.

Just make sure your mother isn’t overextending her limits – she may be sending it to him in order to sneak more money in there.

Post # 7
715 posts
Busy bee

@searock:  Well if he’s paying upfront (and she knows about it) doesnt’t it seem natural for her to send it to him right away? 

if she sent it to you, you’d have to write out a check for him again… 

i think it’s sort of also showing that your mum already sees FI as family. 

I wouldn’t really worry about it.

ETA: What I do find weird is that she won’t talk about it to you. 

If it really bothers you then say something to the extent of “Mom, we’re beyond happy that you’re helping us with the wedding. you send the cheques to FI so that he faster can get his money, right?” 

then she can either accept your assumption… or correct you on it. 

Post # 8
2884 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i dont think its strange at all. they want to help pay for the wedding. currently, hes the one writing the cheques (as its time for the big things to be paid)so they want to reimburse him. since you arent paying for things yet, you dont get the cheques or youd have to then transfer him the money. why do it in 2 steps when they can give it directly

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