Post # 1
I had a beautiful, fabulous wedding in May of this year. A few days ago, my mom and her boyfriend of 2+ years broke up. He dumped her and it was a bad break-up.
He was at our intimate 36-guest wedding and his son (whom I love dearly) was in the wedding. When I look at the wedding photos that have him or his son – I feel bummed. His son was such an important, fun and memorable part of my wedding day. And now, they are both out of my life.
She has brought up numerous times how sad she is that he is in the wedding photos as she can’t stand to look at them. I still enjoy looking at the pictures but the ones with the little dude break my heart. Gonna miss that kid a lot. Working on sorting through my pictures to choose which ones to put in our wedding album. I can’t decide whether I should leave out any the one’s that have my mom’s ex-boyfriend/son…
I know I can’t be the only person who has people that are no longer in their life in their wedding photos.
Anyone else have this happen? Do you have any advice?
Post # 2
You made me think about my own family situation. My dad has been dating someone (not longterm) and I don’t want her in any family wedding photos. Can your photographer maybe do some airbrushing?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017
When my BIL’s first baby was born and we went to meet the baby the day of the birth I’d only been dating Darling Husband for 7 months so I made sure I was in as few group photos as possible in case this thing happens.. it’s just awkward :/
I don’t know what to say other than with photography, these moments are cast forever.. your mum’s ex shouldn’t have been there if he knew their relationship was ending. I’m so sorry.
This is also a reason I didn’t give +1s to our guests.
Post # 4
At the (few) weddings that I’ve been to where this might be an issue, it seemed that either the family requested a few “family only” group shots, and a few photos with SOs, or the SOs just knew to step out of some of the pictures. No one got their feelings hurt, because who expects to be in every single picture in someone else’s wedding? and yet at least there are a few photos that the SOs are not in, just in case.