- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
…and actually takes it a step further and usually has something negative to say about it.
Although my parents have VERY generously offered to pay for it all, I really think my Mom would be more happy if I just didn’t have a wedding. I know money isn’t the issue… they’re happy to pay… but everytime I talk about it she is either dismissive or has something horrible to say about it.
-She hated the church that WE LOVED. She told us how much she hated it everyday. We then picked the one she wanted and she didn’t say a word.
-When Fiance proposed, she cried… but not in a good way. She was mad that he told my Dad and his brother before hand and not her.
-She tried to talk me out of our venue.
-She thinks we’re inviting too many people (130).
-When I called her last night to talk about ideas for my shower (that my sis/MOH is throwing), she said I’m being ridiculous by having a themed shower and that my wedding would be a circus (something that she frequently calls it).
-She tried to talk me out of my dress (although it is very typical/conservative and came in under budget).
-She hated our honeymoon registry and refuses to look at our other registries, although I’ve asked her more than once to check them out and give me feedback on what we need.
-She couldn’t tell you one detail about my flowers, bridesmaid dresses, or theme ideas… although I feel like Mom’s should know these details inside and out (My Future Mother-In-Law surely does).
Although this makes her sound like it, she isn’t a bitter or mean person. Everyone loves her and she’s been nothing but bend-over-backwards supportive of me my entire life – like above and beyond her mom duties.
All I can think of as explaining this is either A)that she’s a super tomboy (watching basketball is her #1 hobby) and isn’t into frufru wedding stuff or B)she has some resentment towards it because she didn’t have a grand wedding (Her mom wasn’t as generous as she is to me and she was forced to wear her older sister’s dress). I don’t really think those are it though and this is absolutely killing me because I have always pictured wedding planning as the biggest mother/daughter bonding experience of a life time… and its not. She acts like my wedding annoys her and it makes me want to cry.