Post # 1
So long story short my mom was just diagnosed (again!) with cancer. She was in remission for a few years and now the cancer is back. This is the 4th time she’s gone through this. It’s now more aggressive than its been in the past. The treatments are for 8 weeks and then she has to go for more chemo after that to get rid of more cancer in other parts of her body. Her chance of survival looks very good.
My question is should I quit my job to take care of her? My career path isn’t going the way I wanted to and I’m not making big money by any means. My husband is totally cool with me doing this to help her out and he makes plenty to support the both of us. My only issue is I’m worried I won’t be able to find another job. I live in Florida and the job market is HORRIBLE. Any advice would be extremely helpful!!
Post # 2
MrsPerry0427: I’m sorry to hear about your mother’s illness. I think you can get a medical leave of absence.
Post # 3
MrsPerry0427: Sorry to hear about your Mum. I personally would not quit totally as I would worry to much about finding a job again, but is taking 6 months leave without pay or similar an option where you are? Or going part time for a while?
Post # 4
creativeplannertobee: I don’t qualify for a leave because I haven’t been at my job for a year. That’s the minimum where I work.
Lollybags: I can try to work part time but I don’t know how long it will be until she is in remission again… I don’t want to keep my job in limbo but this may be the only option…
Post # 5
I’m so sorry to hear about your mom 🙁
And if your husband is cool with it and he makes well enough money to support the two of you I say go for it. Just make sure you keep a lot in savings.
Post # 6
I would do anything for my mom, including possibly quitting my job to take care of her. However, I would only quit if I was financially able to and as long as FI supported my decision.
I would probably try to get a part time position so all the financial responsibility wasn’t on FI for an undetermined amount of time.
Post # 7
MrsPerry0427: Sorry to hear about your mom. I’m taking care of my grandfather and school is about to start back up so I understand the stress it puts on us caregivers. I don’t know if I would necessarily quit, but what about FMLA?
Post # 8
If you can and you have the support to do it I say Do It! It was one of the best decisions I ever made to be by my mom’s side throughout her illness. We didn’t have much time (I don’t think there’s ever enough) Time is precious and I have no regrets being by my mom’s side and giving her the best comfort and care a daughter can give.
Post # 9
So sorry to hear about your mom. Do what your heart tells you is the right thing to do.
Post # 10
What does your mother want you to do?
Post # 11
ksn1219: I don’t qualify for FMLA unfortunately. I haven’t been there a year yet.
My heart is telling me to quit but my mind is telling me I’d be crazy to totally quit. My mom really hasn’t said what she wants me to do. I think she’s just overwhelmed with emotion of the cancer coming back again.
Post # 12
I quit my job to take care of my grand aunt. 2years total. I had a hard time getting back in the job market so I went to a temp agency, actually 3, and my skills made me overqualified. However the first place they sent me to was great and my boss there ripped apart my resume and addèd taking care of mu aunt as a job. Filing claims, keeping track of appointments her meds…plus her meals and personnel hygiene all filled up those two years. I also forgot that we had moved states as well…down south. So you can use your new skills on your resume. You can also take a class or volunteer. Now all I have to do is vet used to the South2 pay scale.
Post # 13
You can replace a job. Time with your mom, priceless.
Post # 14
yeah, i agree completely with bklynbridetobe. especially since your husband is on board.
Post # 15
MrsPerry0427: I agree that time is precious but I think the decision has to come from your mother. What she wants is the most important thing. It was one of the most frustrating things I found having cancer and being ill is that others start thinking about you as this poor sick invalid that couldn’t possibly make a decision concerning their own life. I am sick but I haven’t lost the ability to think and decide for myself.
Whilst most people do this because they care, it does get really annoying to be told what you need rather than being asked.