Mom diagnosed with cancer… Quit job??

posted 2 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

MrsPerry0427:  I’m sorry to hear about your mother’s illness.  I think you can get a medical leave of absence.  

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

MrsPerry0427:  Sorry to hear about your Mum. I personally would not quit totally as I would worry to much about finding a job again, but is taking 6 months leave without pay or similar an option where you are? Or going part time for a while?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m so sorry to hear about your mom 🙁

And if your husband is cool with it and he makes well enough money to support the two of you I say go for it. Just make sure you keep a lot in savings. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would do anything for my mom, including possibly quitting my job to take care of her. However, I would only quit if I was financially able to and as long as FI supported my decision.

I would probably try to get a part time position so all the financial responsibility wasn’t on FI for an undetermined amount of time.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

MrsPerry0427:  Sorry to hear about your mom. I’m taking care of my grandfather and school is about to start back up so I understand the stress it puts on us caregivers. I don’t know if I would necessarily quit, but what about FMLA?

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

If you can and you have the support to do it I say Do It! It was one of the best decisions I ever made to be by my mom’s side throughout her illness. We didn’t have much time (I don’t think there’s ever enough) Time is precious and I have no regrets being by my mom’s side and giving her the best comfort and care a daughter can give.

 

 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  Sancerre.
  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  Sancerre.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

So sorry to hear about your mom. Do what your heart tells you is the right thing to do.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

What does your mother want you to do?

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I quit my job to take care of my grand aunt. 2years total. I had a hard time getting back in the job market so I went to a temp agency, actually 3, and my skills made me  overqualified.  However the first place they sent me to was great and my boss there ripped apart my resume and addèd taking care of mu aunt as a job. Filing claims, keeping track of appointments her meds…plus her meals and personnel hygiene all filled up those two years. I also forgot that we had moved states as well…down south. So you can use your new skills on your resume.  You can also take a class or volunteer.  Now all I have to do is vet used to the South2 pay scale.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You can replace a job. Time with your mom, priceless.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

yeah, i agree completely with bklynbridetobe. especially since your husband is on board. 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper

MrsPerry0427:  I agree that time is precious but I think the decision has to come from your mother. What she wants is the most important thing. It was one of the most frustrating things I found having cancer and being ill is that others start thinking about you as this poor sick invalid that couldn’t possibly make a decision concerning their own life. I am sick but I haven’t lost the ability to think and decide for myself.

Whilst most people do this because they care, it does get really annoying to be told what you need rather than being asked.

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