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I think you should ask your mom where she saw the pictures, so you can see for yourself. If you are comfortable with it, then let it be. If not, then maybe suggest to your dad that you would prefer if he was dressed more like the rest of the guys. You can do it nicely.
Thanks. I quickly looked on Facebook to try and find it. I think I found it. I need some impartial advice. I will see if I can upload it onto this thread and get the bees opinions.
I think as long as you are comfortable with it, you should just ignore your mom.
I think it is fine as long as you are fine with it. It does look dated, but other than that, I think it is fine.
I think its great that you are being so thoughtful about your parent's feelings, but what do you think about the suit?
Frankly, I think your mom is out of line. If you care about the suit, that's one thing, but your mom really needs to let it go. If you do care, for whatever reason, it would probably be pretty easy to tell your dad you'd prefer he wear something that coordinates with the rest of the wedding party. But only if it's actually something you care about, not just to placate your mom.
I think you need to (gently) remind your mum that what your dad wears won't reflect on her at all :) I suspect deep down that is what she is really worried about, which is sad, but so many women feel that way. Personally as long as my dad wore a suit (since that was the style of our wedding), I wouldn't really care what it looked like - he's walking me down the aisle bc he's my DAD, not bc he has a good suit on :) It sounds like that's your attitude too!
What color is everyone else wearing? It looks like he's got on a herringbone suit jacket that he's wearing with a very casual shirt and pants. If its something he throws on to wear with jeans, it probably isn't in the best of shape. The sleeves/cuffs may be worn and even with pressing it may be misshapen. It may even be wool,which really isn't something one would wear to a summer wedding anyway. Even tho men's suits don't change all that much,it may have seen better days.
I guess if you're OK with it, that should be all that matters,but if it were me,I'd want to see it up close and personal. He'll be in a lot of pictures that day, so if it matters to you then I'd ask him nicely if he would mind getting something else. Your Mom may be right...maybe it IS that bad. I also don't think he'd be insulted by the suggestion...he's your Dad!
Just to update:
I had my FI talk to my Dad about the suit this weekend. I had him bring it up as if he had no idea I had talked about it.
It really wouldn't matter to me, but it matters to my Mom and as I said, I want everyone to be happy.
My Dad is super easy going so he said that he would wear whatever we wanted. We will pick out a suit for him to wear.
That closes the most recent case of wedding stress. Good bye! :)
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Sorry this is long. I finally stopped crying.
Today I called my Mom to check in with her about when I'll be coming to her city to try on my dress.
My parents are divorced. A couple weeks ago my Mom asked me to check in with my Dad to make sure he is not going to wear this 'ugly' suit from a million years ago.
I find the topic kindof akward. I am not one to tell other people what to wear. So, last weekend I casually mention to my Dad about my fiancee's suit, where we are getting it and such. I said 'so if you need a suit, it is a great store' bla bla bla. My Dad told me that he already has a suit. He says he bought it years ago before his work went 'business casual' and he hasn't worn it much since then and it fits him great. So I say 'great'.
I relayed this story to my Mom over the phone today and she starts freaking out. She says that I can't let this happen; that he should care more about walking me down the isle; that I should be a bridezilla and tell him what to wear; and 400 other things to try to get me to tell my Dad to wear something else.
In reality, I just want to make sure everyone is happy. I don't want to insult my Dad and tell him to wear something else. I don't want to insult my Mom by not telling my Dad to wear something else.
How bad can a suit be? My Mom says it can be bad in so many ways and that she saw pictures of him on Facebook recently and that his suit looks terrible.
This totally broke my heart for so many reasons. I am left feeling so sad and I don't know what to do.