Post # 1
Mom hates my bridesmaid. She is constantly putting her down behind her back because of what part of our country she is from (according to mom, those people are known for being manipulative gogetters that will use you and dump you) It is actually clouding my judgment and making me wonder how much the BM really cares about me! and I’m thinking other negative things like “well, maybe she isn’t as pretty as the other girls, maybe it would be better to un-ask her” (compounding the problem is that I have too many girls and not enough BM spots. This is because I only started making friends in adulthood–there’s basically one girl for each of the last 10 years that I became close with in that year. So now hard to choose. When i’m with each girl it seems like we are best friends. Fiance has 6 GM.
Post # 2
Seriously? You’re questioning how pretty she is and if she’s pretty enough to be a bridesmaid now? You need to A) stop talkin to your mom about this, and B) really think about if you are actually friends with these girls, because as your friend they REALLY don’t need you judging them worthy based on their looks or what part of he country they come from. That’s just absurd.
Post # 3
If you really are thinking “well, maybe she isn’t as pretty as the other girls, maybe it would be better to un-ask her” I think you probably should un-ask her to be your bridesmaid. She deserves better friends who don’t judge her.
Post # 4
Um, you sound ridiculous. To unask someone because their not pretty enough by YOUR standards? Yeah, that’s shallow as hell.
Actually, you should “unask” her, since your mother and your opinion is so low of her, she should know the truth. Then she can bow out herself and forget this “friendship”.
Post # 5
What has this particular BM done to cause you to question your so called “friendship” or think that she doesn’t care about you?
Post # 6
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
Wow! I would say shocked but appalled is more like it. Pretty superficial is what you are.
Post # 7
Seriously one of the lowest/meanest post I have read on the Bee….WTF “she may not be as pretty as the other girls” “wrong part of the country”. Your “friend” deserves better than the friendship she supposedly has with you…save her a headache from being in your wedding.
Post # 8
starcatcher: I’m confused. Have you already asked 10 friends to be bridesmaids, and are now going to ‘unask’ 4 of them so that the sides are even?
Post # 9
starcatcher: What a callous thing to say. You should let this poor girl off the hook, that way she doesn’t have to deal with either you or your mother.
Post # 10
Wait – so you asked 10 and now want to cut 4? And you’re judging her from being from the “wrong” part of the country and not being pretty enough?! Do her a favour and cut her so she doesn’t end up spending lots of money on someone who clearly doesn’t care for her.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
“according to mom, those people are known for being manipulative gogetters that will use you and dump you”
I think your mom was talking about you.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN
Your mom needs to back off. These are your friends. I’d say you would know them more than her.
Post # 13
Show her this post. Problem solved!
Post # 15
With only 11 posts, I’m sure hoping that this is a troll?