Mom hates my dress, any opinions or advice?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 4
2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@sunny_days:  Just wanna say I LOVE that dress. It is stunning on you. Sorry your Mom ruined the experience for you. She is being incredibly childish and passive aggressive. She should be absolutely ashamed of herself.  Don’t doubt you choice though….you will make a gorgeous gorgeous bride in that dress. 

Post # 5
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I am not usually a big ball gown fan but the sleeves and lacey belt looking thing on that dress are stunning. Definitely does not look cheap. I also really like the sweetheart bodice.

I know how tough it would be not to get your mum’s approval but when you look back at your photos you want to love how you look in them, not feel half hearted about your dress that you chose just because your mum preferred it. She’s behaving badly so don’t feed into her behaviour.

Post # 6
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think this dress looks beautiful on you. I don’t think it looks childish. I love the sleeves, and I’m a huge fan of the tulle! I’m sorry your mom has tainted your feelings about the dress. That’s not fair at all. My mom and I had the same vision for my dress but that was one of the few tbkngs we agreed on during this wedding process, so  I know how you feel. You made a good choice.!

Post # 7
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you chose a beautiful dress! It looks great on you. 🙂

I think it is important for you to wear a dress that you feel beautiful in. It’s your day and what should matter is how you feel in your dress. Parental dynamics can sometimes complicate these things. 

I think my biggest advice to you for your wedding is to not try and please everyone else. There is always going to be someone who is unhappy with something. At the end of the day what matters is: 1. you’re married. 2. You’re happy. 

I wish I had more advice for how to patch things up with your mom. It sounds like she really over-reacted. There may be underlying reasons for that, who knows. Maybe she is feeling some sadness or regret over your past relationship but doesnt know how to express that?


Post # 8
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

FANTASTIC dress. Just remember this is your day. 

Post # 9
9207 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I love that dress, don’t return it, it looks amazing on you! It is YOUR DRESS! And your mum will come around when she realizes it’s your day not hers, and you are the one who is wearing the dress, not her. I would be pissed off at your mum if I was you. Not only does she make you feel bad for buying the dress you LOVE but she turns everyone else against you that she can.

Post # 10
42166 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You look stunning in that dress. I will never understand mothers who behave like this!

Why can’t they support their daughters in their choice of dress rather than having a temper tantrum and causing major drama????

Stick with your choice. Your Mom sounds a little unbalanced to behave like this.

Post # 11
1167 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@sunny_days:  Holy crap is she nuts? I LOVE IT!

You look fabulous! Hell, if you wanna look like a princess on the one day you are, why the hell not?!

Im so glad you suck to your guns, You look amazing 🙂 (and NOT cheap!)

Post # 12
730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

My mom talked me out of the dress I was in love with, and it hurts every time I see another bee wearing “my” dress – so good for you for sticking to your guns! I’m sorry that the experience was spoiled for you. 

That dress really shows off your tiny waist, so I think that’s “form fitting” enough. Good job!

Do you have a photo of the contentious “other dress”?

Post # 13
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m a mother of 2 adult daughters. 

if you were my daughter, wearing that dress in front of me, I would sob.

you look stunning……….

Post # 14
2055 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@sunny_days:  Uhhh…that dress is drop dead gorgeous on you. You look sensational in it and I can’t get over how beautifully it fits you. It doesn’t strike me as little girl or “princessy” at all but rather, regal in the best sense of the word.

Your mom was throwing every negative adjective at your dress choice to try and control your decision. When you wore her choice, she did a 180. I think the underlying issue here is that she is facing the fact that you are a grown woman capable of making your own decisions, and that you are not her little girl anymore, and that you will not cower to her demands. This is a tough thing to face but that is something that comes about with weddings.

Her: “it’s not like my opinion matters to you anyway.” is clearly generalizing just trying to guilt trip you further and showing her hurt. Her opinion *does* matter to you, but just because she didn’t get her way she’s expanding to everything. I think you can progress here by sticking to your decision and incorporating another idea of hers into the wedding.

Post # 15
1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@sunny_days:  I LOVE IT. Unique, and it looks GREAT on you. It also just looks so sweetly classic.

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