Post # 1
I need a pick-me-up. I’ve been working extremely hard on my invitations for weeks and finally showed it to my mom. Well the first thing that came out of her mouth was "they are ugly."
My heart dropped and I have decided to just drop the DIY plans and go professional. My invites need to be printed and delivered to me by August 27th and at this rate, I am just too discouraged to continue.
I am not that easily influenced, but I’m just too tired to argue.
Have any of you had a similar situation with your parents?
Post # 3
Don’t be discouraged – your invitations are lovely!! And even more special that you did them yourself. My mom has practically hated every single thing I’ve showed her so far – we just have really different taste. Yes, it hurts my feelings, but it’s my choice and not hers. I guess I should learn to just stop asking her opinion.
You should be REALLY proud of yourself for trying to DIY your invitations – it makes them more personal and saves money. I think they’ll great.
Post # 4
Well, keep in mind that parents are from a different generation and therefore, their taste is typically way different. I think they’re gorgeous. My parents haven’t necessarily loved everything I do, but I"m paying for it myself and by the tme i work something togheter, I’m not redoing it. They keep telling me a lot of the little things I"m doing are unnecessary but I’m one of those people who believes it’s the little things that make the difference
Post # 5
be glad that it’s only your invitations. my mom hated my wedding dress. it was plain and simple just like i wanted it because that’s the kind of person i am. my mom, on the other hand, loves beads, sequins, and other sparkly things. she disliked my dress so much that she threatened to not be present at the wedding. i almost broke out in tears. but i stuck with what i wanted. by the time my final fitting came around, she finally said… ‘it’s not that bad,’ so it turned out well for me in the end. i think your mom just wants the best for you and like my mom, is probably just mixing up what she wants for what you want. so i say, stick to your guns. it’s your wedding, do what you want.
Post # 6
I think they are lovely personally. I agree on the generation thing. Also has she seen them in person to see how they look? That makes a world of difference with my mom.
Post # 7
I think they are very nice! If YOU really like them… I would stick with it!
If you are not sure if you like them or really take to heart what you mom said then: ….. If it were me and My Mom had said that, I would just say "If you want to pick up the tab for professional one’s then we can pick them out together, but I get the final say."
Post # 8
I don’t think anyone will ever satisfy what the parents want
My mom also criticized my invitations: how come there’s no officiant how come there are no sponsors (we’re Filipino), my sis said how come it’s not cut right
oh well, I made it, I like them, I think that’s all that matters; I did it myself and saved $350
Same with my dress I liked my dress I cried because it was what I wanted; my mom liked the other more expensive one; oh well, I loved it, it was in my price range it’s all that matters
same with my guest list she said I should invite family first over friends; I didn’t know people would keep adding how would I know
aw well, you will never agree with everything I still love my mom
Post # 9
Thanks ladies, I appreciate your thoughtfullness. I guess planning a destinational wedding has also added to the stress. She hasn’t seen them in person yet, I was going to take her a copy when I fly home in a few weeks.
I ignore most of the stuff my mom says, but I took this one to heart since I made them.
Luckily, she’s willing to pay for them as a gift, so I’m thinkig about what makes me less insane.
Post # 10
Aww, I think your invitations look great! Did your mom mention what specifically she disliked about them? While I was working on our invitations, I showed my fiance a mock-up, and he said they looked "weird." When I asked him what he meant, he pointed out two small things that could easily be changed. To make him happy I altered the invitations, and he "loved" the next version. If you’re just tired of dealing with it, then getting professional invitations made may be the way to go….or, you could try working with your mom to come up with something you both like. Good luck!!!
Post # 11
I think your invitations are very pretty! It’s your wedding; you should have things that you like. It doesn’t matter what other people think.
Post # 12
I think they are wonderful and the fact that you created them yourself makes it even more special. What really matters is if you and your FI like them.
All our parents are going to give their two cents but in the end it is you that has to live with the decision. I am lucky that my parents haven’t disliked anything or made negative comments even though I ask their opinions because I need the constructive criticism. The only thing that I changed was my ride. I wanted to roll in my dad’s F150 but he offered the limo… How can I refuse that one?!
Post # 13
I think they are lovely. Maybe your Mom couldn’t make the jump from white-and-grey-on-the-computer to envisioning how they would look in real life. If you and your fiance like them, that’s what really matters. I’d be sure to tell your Mom how much she hurt your feelings.
Post # 14
thanks everyone, you really helped me get through my day. You’re right, even if i have a professional design the invites, it’s our vision, not hers. ARRRRG!
Post # 15
I think they are nice too. I bet your mom is either feeling the font isn’t formal and swirly enough, or she wants the wording to be more formal (Mr. and Mrs. Kixparents request the honor of your presence…) Of course if they aren’t paying for the wedding, then they don’t have a right to it.
Post # 16
OK, I think your mom is nuts. Those are lovely! They’re pretty, simple and classy — what is her issue with them? Does she want more color? Less decoration? Different wording?
I think you should stick to your guns on this one. They’re great — and if you accept your mom’s money she may insist on having input into the design process. Since it sounds like you have very different aesthetics I say go DIY and have it your way!