- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
Ok, so I had a problem with my mom today and I just wanted to vent about it because she really upset me. My mom’s 50th is just a couple of months before my wedding and my FI and I’ll travel hundreds of miles to be with her at her party.
Today I was speaking to her about it and she was talking about invitations. She then said my ex BF would probably help her with designing them. OK, well he worked with my dad for a long time and still does and he’s my ex from 10+ yrs ago (I was really young when we were together) so that’s ok, it’s her party, but then she says “I was thinking of inviting ex BF”.
I got really upset and I never do with my mom, but here’s the background: ex BF and I were together for just under 3yrs, I never loved him but had such low self esteem (which mom knows) so I thought noone else would want me, towards the end he was mentally abusive and trying to dominate me, he may have cheated (I’m not sure though), and overall got nasty, so i fell for someone else and dumped him. He then stalked me and I had to threaten him and tell him I didn’t love him and loved someone else and to please leave me alone.
Well, then he stopped talking to me, and even at a mutual friend’s funeral 5 yrs later (we dont have many mutual friends, thank goodness) he ignored me, even when I said how sorry I was. OK fine, whatever. But then my mom says she is thinking of inviting him!! WTF! She’s my mom, she knows how I felt about him, how I just want him to leave my family the hell alone, how bad he was for me and how it wld make me uncomfortable to see him, PLUS he ignores me outwardly!! I was so so disappointed and hurt by her and I’m still feeling crappy about it.
Did I miss something? Am I taking it too personally? Any kind comments or advice wld be greatly appreciated, thank you 🙂