- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
I took her wedding dress shopping with me. She didn’t like ANYTHING and at one point was even on her cell phone asking my father what was for dinner. I watch all the “Say Yes to the Dress” shows and was expecting my mom to be all emotional and all I got was her straight face and her shaking her head like she wasn’t impressed. We visited only one shop and she complained that she was tired and hungry so I had to drive her back home.
My mother and father both previously agreed to fund the majority of our wedding. My mother has changed the budget multiple times which has caused much frustration to my fiance and I and also our wedding planner. She does not understand the concept of sticking to the budget they agree on. At first she increased it and now she is putting pressure on me to bring it back down after we have already met with and booked the majority of our vendors. She gives me guilt trips after asking me about our vendors and their prices. I am just so sick of it.
She tries to make it seem as though we are getting ripped off even though we have actually negotiated with all these vendors and received really good deals. Our wedding photographer is more high end photojournalistic. I showed my mom her website and she called all of her detail shots of the food, flowers, cake, etc. pointless and unneccessary. These were my favorite things about this photographer! She wants to speak with the photographer and tell her this as well. She also wants the photog to go around to each table and take pictures (which the photog generally does not do). I think I will die of embarrassment if my mom and the photographer actually meet and talk because I know my mom will try to tell her off (she doesn’t think her pictures are worth the price).
I want to include her in the wedding planning process but we disagree on EVERYTHING. She wants me to get ready at home versus the hotel. She wants those white linen chair covers with the sashes while we are already having our wedding at a 5 star hotel. The chairs are nice enough to stand alone uncovered. I did not pick the church she wanted me to get married in either.
My fiance and I have told her that we will pay her back for all that she is spending in hopes that it will curb all of this, but it hasn’t. She refuses our offers to pay her back meanwhile remaining a wet blanket during this whole thing.
She is also complaining already about not wanting to entertain our out of town guests. I thought she would be excited to see family coming in from everywhere but apparently she is not and sees this as another chore.
Anyone else have an experience like this? I pictured this whole experience bringing us together but right now it’s driving us apart. Any advice would be great.