- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Hi Bees! This is probably going to seem more of a “vent” session than anything but I don’t know what to do or say anymore! My mother seems very distant in helping me plan my wedding. We have always been really close and as I’ve gotten older we seemed more like friends than mother/daughter. I am getting married in roughly 8 months and I’m trying to get ahead of planning because I will be student teaching in the spring and want to do as little as possible. While I have made great progress in the last few months I know I still have a long way to go! Ive kept up on every wedding timeline I’ve come across. At this point in time I should be finalizing our guest list (and getting addresses together)- which obviously must include both of my parents, and the Father-In-Law. I mentioned to my mom that we needed to get together and start getting addresses so I can send STD. She’s like “Well it’s a little early, don’t ya think?” I’m to the point where I need to start meeting w/ the caterer and florist and cake, etc and she just keeps tellng me, it’s too soon. If I ask her to get together, she never has the time because she has “3 papers to write for her masters”. Yet, she can find the time to golf everyday after work, watch football on the weekend, help plan a surprise bday party or make cookies with her boyfriend’s family. I feel like I am completely on her back burner. If I don’t bring up what needs done each month for the wedding, it’d never get done. I finally confronted her about it, and she said it was my chance to do what I wanted – I should have my girlfriends helping me plan. (which they all have kids, just got married, bought a house,etc so they’re all on a different page than I am). When I do show my ideas to her (I”M all about DIY!!), she just looks at me like I’m crazy! (She didn’t like that our bridal party was lopsided! Or that I wanted feathers in the bouquets!) She wasn’t like this during the early stages of planning though! She wanted to go Bridal shows, dress shopping, and hall hunting. We even lost our reception hall and had to change our date in order to book another hall and she did all the leg work! So I can’t say she’s a complete cop out, but just recently! I feel like I can’t enjoy planning it because I want her to help but she doesn’t want to.
Thanks in advance for “listening” to me vent! Any suggestions?