- 4 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014
I am the youngest of 5 children and the only girl, not to mention me even exsisting is what my parents consider to be a “medical miracle” so I knew when I got engaged that my mom was going to go crazy with the wedding planning.
I’ve let her have a control of a lot of things because I honestly just don’t care that much. I know our venue is gorgeous, my dress is awesome, our food will be good and the dj will do a great job and everything will be the colors that I’ve chosen. Beyond that I just don’t have the time to worry myself with every little detail. My mom is a teacher so she’s off all summer so letting her handle a lot of things is definitely easier.
Here’s a few major problems I’ve had since she’s been off…
#1 Mom has become a HUGE ebay fiend. My niece is going to be a junior bridesmaid and she found a used dress in the right color to buy to remake into a dress for her. My mom is a very talented seamstress and the dress was $15 so thats great. Problem is she also bid on dresses for THREE of my bridesmaids without discussing it with me or them. When I mentioned that they would like to find their own dresses she actually got mad. My sister in law, is a bridesmaid and my mom was like “Who the hell does she think she is?! She can’t afford to buy a dress… She needs to take whatever I find for her!” Um… really mom?
#2 She’s taken it upon herself to make these platters that are different heights and such to display the food on which again is fine, so far they look really nice. However, I made a suggestion for a decoration idea on those tables and her response was “I don’t have room for that on my tables”. You know… HER tables at HER wedding that she’s planning that I just will be attending as the unimportant BRIDE… ugh…
#3 She wants to go pick out the tuxes for the groomsmen… Without me or my groom. When I told her that wasn’t going to work, she got mad again. Telling me that FH didn’t have very good taste when it came to nice clothes and that either I do without him or she will because she’s just not going to have tacky looking groomsmen at the wedding.
#4 The rehearsal dinner… you know that the GROOM’S family plans. I found an affordable place and was going to do a cash bar only. My mom decided it would be “EMBARASSING” to go with the base menu and that we had to have an open bar complete with mixed drinks.
How do I handle a mother of the bridezilla? I don’t want to seem unappreciative but at the same time I’m not completely sure who this crazy woman is beause she sure isn’t acting like my mother. I know just a few incidents may not sound like much but I feel like I need to stop her before she takes this too far.