Mom is making my dress…and I hate it.

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@solidarity:  Do you have pics? It is hard to see what you mean without them. Did you show her exact photos? The fabric may have looked different in the store…taking a swatch outside would have showed its true color. 

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

How about adding a beaded or otherwise embellished sash – it’ll make the dress less plain, and by defining the waist it might make it more flattering.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Is she a professional seamstress? 

Can she sew in some overlays of tulle or chiffon to cover up the fabric you chose, and add more to it?

What kind of fabric did she use?

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think you should just be honest with her. It doesn’t benefit anyone for you to be unhappy about it. Just be extremely thankful for what she’s done, but be honest with her. Buy something off the rack that you love. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@solidarity:  tell your mom that you love her and tell her to come with you to buy a dress.

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Maybe you can find a way of changing the design somewhat so that you don’t completely abandon the dress (and insult your mum) while moving towards something you like better?

Then you could make it out like you’re just indecisive and have changed your mind about what you want, rather than your mum has done a bad job. 

Though I noticed you didn’t say that much about the shape or construction of the dress being wrong, and it’s more the colour, the corset issue, and the plainness? If that is the case, probably all those things are fixable in some way. Even if there are some style issues, they could still be solveable. At it’s most drastic, maybe you could look at keeping the bodice and requesting an entirely different skirt, or vice versa. 

You could, as the PP has suggested, add a layer of tulle or chiffon to disguise the colour – could drape that over the bodice as well. You could obviously add embellishments or beading too. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Could she add an overlay to brighten up the color if it is too yellow? Post pics so we can be more helpful.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Dang, this would be a really hard spot to be in!! I made my own dress because I wanted something plain, almost austere. Making an embellished wedding dress that can hold its own against the lace/layers/bling of modern wedding dresses would be so difficult! 

If it were me, I would hate to disappoint my mom or in any way put down her work… but did you get the vibe from her that she LOVES the dress on you? Maybe she would agree with you if you asked her to throw the towel in? 

Or what about getting a really fancy sash, or bolero? 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think David’s Bridal has dresses that you can buy off the rack if they have it in your size. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Do you have any pics of similar or inspiration dresses so we get a better idea of what can be changed?

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Did you have any input on the design?

Honestly, I’d rather have something that no one else has rather than the exact same thing that a lot of people have worn before.

You could have her add Dior roses on the neckline for an embellishment, which would be nice. There’s a Vogue pattern that shows this, I think #7009.

Alternatively she could place flowers and roses on it like in Maggie Sottero’s Rihanna Royale, which would be beautiful but take a lot of time and energy to do. You could make it easier for her by ordering the flowers online, mj trim makes some.

You can get some decent shapewear that will hold you in without boning. Think about using a strapless bra, then getting a high waist short shaper for the rest.

To be fair, my mom is making my rehearsal dinner gown and is having a hard time getting it to fit right, even though we have the fabric and I purchased the right pattern for her as well as told her the adjustments that needed to be made. I about cried when I tried it on, it was so awful.

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