Post # 1
why do some moms dress all the same after having babies? Capri pants, breastfeeding top, flip flops, mom hair cut? The whole Kate Goselin look is not cute! Come on, anyone who is a mom is as sexy if not sexier after they’ve had a baby! I’m not a mother myself, but I feel like when I have a child I’ll want to embrace how sexy and powerful I am!( maybe not right after when I have hemorhoids and vagina stitches) Just because you’re a mom doesn’t mean you have to dress like a grandma. It’s just something I’ve noticed.Tell me if you agree or disagree?
Post # 3
All the moms I know dress the same as they did before they had kids…so like normally.
Post # 5
None of the mothers I know dress like Grandmas. Even if they did, I wouldn’t judge them because people should wear whatever makes them feel comfortable.
Post # 6
@mackenzie810: I don’t know any mom’s who dress like ‘moms’ they all dress exactly like they did before – at least when they’re going out/having planned company. My sister, when she was nursing, wouldnt always change out of her ‘day pj’s’ when my mom or I was going over. My close girlfriends won’t always get ‘dressed’ when one of us is coming over – but sometimes i’m basically in sweats when they come here too (so what’s the difference).
Post # 7
ive never noticed radical differences pre and post baby ecxept maybe looser fitting clothes.to be fair a lot of people here wear flip flops and capri pants when not pregnant (mexico, hot weather nearly all year round) so thats not a mom exclusive thing
and nursing tops…well theyre obviously to allow nursing. the range of nursing clothing out there is fairly limited (esp where i live) and a lot easier than pulling up non nursing tops entirely
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
It may be a regional and even socio-economical thing. I’m a professional in central Florida so most moms I know dress exactly like they did before having their baby. They all strive to fit back into their pre-pregnancy suits and blouses.
Post # 9
I look way better after 3 kids than I did before the first one (I’ve lost a lot of weight and make it a point to look good every day). I think a lot of moms just do what’s easy… clothes they don’t have to match, haircuts that don’t require a lot of blowdrying/styling, quick makeup routine. They’re *busy*, but so is everyone else in the world. Plus, I think a lot of moms consider it a bad thing to take 20 minutes to make yourself look good, as though it is taking time away from their children I know, that for me, when I look nice, I feel good, which means I’m happier and calmer and better able to deal with my day, which in turn makes my kids happier. Plus, I want my kids to think I’m pretty.
For me, it’s been 50/50 as far as women who go super casual after kids vs. staying the same. I think moms, and women in general, should just take time to make themselves feel their best, however dressy or casual that is.
ETA: I’m a SAHM and so are many of the women I associate with, as that may make a difference.
Post # 10
@stuckinwonderland: I’m not trying to sound mean, I just feel like give your kids to your husband for 20 minutes or pop in a movie, and make yourself feel good! Women should feel empowered after having babies. Don’t hide it! You’ve done some tough sh*t to get that little baby in the world , you deserve to feel good about yourself! I totally agree with you and congrats on your weight loss!! You look good–you feel good!!
Post # 11
I haven’t noticed this, but people should dress in whatever makes them comfortable. I’m sick of this idea that women have to look like Heidi Klum after having kids. Maybe she likes flip flops and short hair.
Post # 12
I definitely don’t want a mini van and to turn into the stereotypical “mom”. With that said, nothing is wrong with flip flops lol. I love them and I don’t care what anyone thinks!!! I have to wear winter boots for like half the year so I relish any chance I get to wear them.
Post # 13
The mom who is wearing capris, flip flops and a breastfeeding top is too tired to care what people walking down the street thinK.
Post # 14
I don’t think anyone who has not experienced giving birth to and taking care of small children (myself included) has any right to judge how a mom looks. For all we know, she’s happy just to be fully dressed and wearing shoes on both feet that match.
Post # 15
@mackenzie810: I can’t think of a single person mom or otherwise that dresses in the way you described in total. And what exactly is a “mom” hair cut? This is very generic and unclear….do you mean short?
Do you have children? I am pregnant now and while I am very much into making myself look fashionable with hair and make up I am fully prepared to abandon this for the sake of sanity and time at least for a while. That doesn’t mean I’ve gone over to the mommy dark side it just means reality has kicked in. Most moms, especially new ones, will agree with me when I say that there are times when all you want is few moments to eat, nap or just take a shower and change your clothes especially if you are a breast feeding boob machine (which is incredibly demanding). Taking the time to look glamorous and “anti-mom” whatever that may be isn’t a concern…staying alive, awake and sane is.
Also as someone who is fashionable I have to say that not once have I ever looked at my mommy friends and thought “gee could you do a little something with yourself?” Their hair is brushed, breath is fresh and clothes are clean. Why should I, a fellow woman and mommy now to be, judge them on not donning their leather pants and stilettos? Ah wouldn’t the female world be just that much more pleasant if we stopped the judgement altogether? Dare to dream.
Post # 16
@strawbabies: @lalalyanne: Exactly. It’s hard enough dealing with everything else (like your figure has changed, and sometimes you can never get it back). New moms don’t need to be criticised with how they dress as well.