Post # 1
How do other bees handle it when it seems like mom just ist interested in your wedding?
It’s the weirdest thing. My mom has always been supportive about mostly everything but when I told her we finally got engaged her response was “why?”.
If the subject of my wedding comes up for any reason, she changes it. My nephew is getting maried 3 months before me (he’s my godson and I am so happy for him) and Mom will go ever every minute detail of his wedding planning but if I even say so much as a “oh we are doing that too”, the subject gets changed.
I did ask her whats up and she said nothing. That she is happy for me and that she doesn’t change the subject ..then she changes the subject.
I’ve stopped mentioning anything around her though.
and if it makes any difference:
1. We are an older couple (46) thats been together for a long time.
2. We are paying for the wedding ourselves entirely. I couldnt imagine asking my family to pay for anything at this later date 🙂
3. Mom lives 2000 miles away.
Maybe I am just being overly sensitive but its just out of character.
Post # 3
I have no idea… Is it your first wedding?
could it be that she is sad that you will officially move on from her nest?
Post # 4
@gramgeek: Not my first marriage ( I eloped at 22) but my first wedding. I’ve been out of the nest since age 21 :).
I’m not looking for a daily yay wedding but an occassional bout of semi-interest would be nice.
Post # 5
@Celliaanne: hmm, I don’t know what her deal is but I agree it would be nice to get some recognition!
Post # 6
My mom was the same way for a while. While she was happy for me and FI anytime I brought up the wedding she changed the subject to her and her boyfriend. It got really annoying so I just stopped asking her questions and bringing it up. I turned to my sister for opinions and such. I never said anything because I didn’t want to rock the boat and you can’t make someone care about your wedding. She eventually came around and was excited about it. Now she’s helping with centerpieces, which was her idea. I hope your mom comes around. we all want our moms help and support and its hard when we don’t get it.