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@Pinksapphire: Can you make your website password protected? That what I plan on doing with portions of mine.
Can you take the info off the wedding website? It's early enough that I doubt people who got the STD are looking into details yet. You can always put it back up when you send out invites.
Wow, that's a tough situation. I would absolutely be upset, too. Maybe ask her to 'show you off' by just put up wedding pics afterwards?
@MsNarwhal: Oh, great idea! What site are you using? I haven't found a password protected option on any sites yet, or do you have to pay for it?
I don't think my site has the option for password protection. I wish it did! So far, I haven't gotten anyone asking for their invite/assuming they're invited, so we'll see. I'm hoping everyone just overlooks her post. She's made a couple of status updates since then, so it probably wouldn't be in anyone's newsfeed anymore.
Sorry to hear about this, I'd be so mad too...but maybe you (and your brothers/sisters/friends) could just post a ton of photos / links / videos to her wall so that the website falls below the first page :).
I'd be pissed too. Can you just... take the whole website down? I mean I realize you probably put a lot of work into it but websites are kind of a newer thing that are just additional info and fluff (for lack of a better term). Mine just reiterates what my invitation already said... maybe that's good enough?
I would be calling my Mom every 5 minutes until she took it off FB. Unacceptable, it's not her wedding...it's your wedding.
Oh no! I'm sorry! :( Privacy is SO important (especially for wedding-realted info), I hope it gets resolved quickly. Maybe you could consult more with your mother that it really bothers you and you don't feel comfortable with the imformation going public and you're worried for potential problems (afterall, it's Facebook)? I know you might already be doing that, but can you possibly shut down the wedding website for a while or make a new one and not tell her?
If anything, I think she's just very excited for you and your fiance. My FMIL is sort of like that, but her intentions are totally positive and good. I'm sure you know that, but sometimes people are just like that and they aren't sensitive towards keeping something private.
I work at a school district as a tutor and a lot of the students think their invited. I can't imagine if they found out my information...LOL.
ugh I totally know what you mean. A while back my sister posted pictures of me trying on wedding gowns to her facebook, and refused to remove them because "well they aren't YOUR gown!" and she even had the nerve to tag my FI in them!! I finally got her to remove them after a few months, when everybody had already seen and commented on them.
Why don't people understand that not everybody and their mom needs to know wedding details??
That's really awkward. She's obviously not thinking about how this could cause extra drama/work for you.
Like others, I would password protect it *or* I would remove certain things (like location, time, etc) because those that need to know THAT will certainly find that out in the invitation and their Save the Date. :/
Honestly I'd keep pestering her about it, and pointing out why that's insane. But that's me.
I don't agree with your mom at all but I think you should be able to manage her friends. The friends that you have never met should not expect an invitation to your wedding. It would totally be your mom's problem if they showed up and expected an invitation. You just have seats for your people! If you end up being asked by them, just be like sorry but my wedding is only for close family only, I appreciate your excitement and encouragement.
I don't think you should have to take the whole website down. If anyone without an invitation really shows up, they should feel like the fool when they don't have a seat.
Bah! I would totally try to password protect it as well, asap. I know that our free one from theknot.com lets us do that. I can't believe she won't take it down!!!!
I wonder if you could put up something embarrassing for an hour or so, like an awful pic of her that she hates, and make sure she sees it, lol....ok, that's not totally mature. :P
I know that you can report photos that others don't have permission to post, not sure about links. You may want to try to have Facebook just remove the link. That and password protect it. Last resort, make a new site?
flag it as inappropriate on FB, then FB will investigate and ma take it down.
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I'm so mad for you, OP. That would be totaly unacceptable to me, as someone who does not post ANYTHING (wedding or non-wedding related) on FB.
My solution would be to find an alternative way to have that post deleted (for me, I'd just go to my parent's house and do it from her computer, she'd never realize it).
I was just going to suggest flagging it and asking your friends to flag it. If it violates your privacy or is considered bullying--then Facebook should take it down.
@Juliepants: LMFAO! I have a horrible pic of her in a bathtub. I've always kept it as leverage. Hmm... Nah, I wouldn't do that.
As far as taking the website down, I'm not gonna go that route. I think that after she posted several more links/statuses, my website left everyone's newsfeed. Plus, right when she posted the link, I wrote "No, take this down I don't want this posted to Facebook. I don't want people seeing this information and showing up without an invitation."
So, I think a lot of people saw how mad I was and I made it clear I wouldn't tolerate anyone who didn't have an invite. My big fear was that my mom's aunts would assume they were invited. My mom has never been close to/really liked them. One of them I could totally see making travel arrangments with her grown daughter and their boyfriends to come to the wedding. She tried to bring her daughter and their boyfriends to my sister's graduation.
Although the site did go up about 100 views, I don't think anyone is planning to just show up. If they do, they won't be getting anywhere to sit/food.
Wow, I don't think I would do that to my worst enemy - just try and ask her to take it down as it is highly personal to you, and you shared the link with her in confidence.
She should respect that, good luck :)
@Pinksapphire: I have found with parents/older relatives on Facebook that they don't really understand "how it works" the same way that we who grew up with the technology do. Your mom probably thought that posting your wedding site was the same as posting a photo of her kids to share with her friends. She was probably upset when you commented about it because then her friends would've seen that as well. I would call her, explain to her that the website has personal info on it, like the date/time of the wedding, and explain that you wouldn't want anyone who wasn't invited to see it and feel bad. I'm sure once she understands how it made you feel that she would be more than happy to take it down. 
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One of my friends posted on my FB wall today that she loved my wedding website. My mom saw her post and was like, "What wedding website? What's the link?" So, I gave my mom the link.
About thirty minutes later I log into FB and my mom has posted the link to my wedding website on her FB! I was so pissed so I commented for her to please take it down. She had the nerve to get mad at me and deleted my comment and kept the link up. She refuses to take it down.
Everybody who needs to know about the wedding website knows already! It was on their STD! I don't want that type of information exposed to all of my mom's friends, half of whom I've never even met. It has my date, time, and venue on there.
There are a lot of people I cannot afford to invite so I don't want them seeing this type of post. They're gonna practically beg for invitations and I'm gonna have to have that awkward, "I couldn't afford to invite everyone" talk. Then, I'm afraid some people are going to assume that they are invited, even if they don't get an invite, and take this information and make travel arrangements to my wedding.
I am so pissed off right now I cannot see straight. My mom text me saying, "I don't know anyone rude enough to show up without a formal invite, so let me keep that up to show you off!" I don't want to be shown off! I am not like that, at all! I don't people asking me why they're not invited/when they'll be getting an invitation. I don't want people showing up to my wedding without an invite. Ughh!