Post # 1
FI and I are both 30 and have lived together for 2 years. We have two sets of everything and usually when we need something new (microwave, toaster oven, coffee maker) we get what we can afford and we usually get moderate to semi-expensive items. But never extravagant.
So I didn’t want a bridal shower. I fought it and fought it for the last 3 months but my aunt was so excited to throw it for me and relatives were calling me and saying I really should do it and that everyone is so excited to come. Ok – fine. I caved.
I’ve since registered at two places: Mackenzie Childs (higher end) and Bed, Bath & Beyond. The cheapest thing at the BB&B is a $20.00 salad spinner and most of the other items are around $75-$100. I registered for 12 things.
Mackenzie Childs will take the place of my wedding china and plates are about $40 per plate (not place setting.) Cheapest thing on that is about $40 and most expensive $130.
Now I’m being told I need to register for some cheaper items so everyone can afford to buy me something. I have spent hours in these stores looking for the cheaper things. I don’t need anymore kitchen gadgets, towels, etc. We are fully stocked and then some and I don’t think I should register for cheaper stuff just for the sake of it being affordable. But I also don’t want to look like a spoiled princess that only wants $85.00 items. THIS IS WHY I DIDNT WANT A SHOWER!
Post # 3
@mousepeach: My advice is you need to register for cheaper things.
Post # 4
@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon: Right. But then it’s just a waste. Fine – I can register for some $10 items that I don’t need or want….then what? So we just stock up our apartment with stuff we don’t need?
Am I crazy? That seems like a waste of everyone’s time and money.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry about it, people will give you money if they don’t want to buy something off the registry.
Post # 6
I’d probably register for new serving utensils and stuff like that. We don’t need that kind of stuff but we don’t have matching sets so we’d likely use the new stuff and give the old stuff to a younger relative who just moved out or something.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@mousepeach: We refused to register and I am standing firm. Why not delete the registry and tell mom to figure it out?
Otherwise, register somewhere like Macy’s for less expensive thngs and then return them for cash or store credit.
Post # 8
Maybe register for the cheaper items then return them and combine the credit to get the big item you want.
Post # 9
@Charliejeorge: Yea – that would make sense but my aunt was a big-wig for Macys for years. 3 years ago she sent me a huge box with almost every kind of kitchen untensil you can imagine (colander, towels mixing bowls, utensil set, measuring spoons, knives.) AND I STILL HAVEN’T UNPACKED IT because I was saving it for when I got married and moved into our new house.
So we already have a backup supply of kitchen stuff.
Post # 10
@mousepeach: keep your registry the way it is. You were very upfront about your situation and your family insisted on throwing a shower anyway. Why should you register for cheaper things that you already have and don’t need? your price ranges don’t sound awful to me, and people can always go in together on gifts if they want to. Worst case scenario, I also got some gift cards at my shower. I say leave it. The whole point of a shower is to receive items you actually need
Post # 11
@mousepeach: If I saw a registry that only had expensive items, I would be turned off and not want to go because I’d assume the bride is greedy. HOWEVER, based on my understanding of your post, you registered for items between $20 and $130. I don’t think that is unreasonable at all. My only concern would be that you have enough items in the “under $100” range for everyone. I don’t know how big your wedding is but 12 items doesn’t sound like many.
Post # 12
register for cheap things at BB&B, and then if it’s things that you really don’t want it, yo ucan just return them for store credit to buy your expensive things… (Most people won’t visit your house and ask you to show them the salad tongs they got…)
Post # 13
@mousepeach: it is a bit wasteful but I don’t know if you have any other alternatives seeing as how the shower will be taking place. Can you upgrade any kitchen items (e.g. vegetable peeler)? What about requesting gift cards for BBB? Or maybe get some seasonal items that are cute but you don’t have yet.
I know these aren’t the best suggestions, so hopefully other Bees can help you out. Good luck!
Post # 14
Honestly, you need to register for some cheaper items. Can you register for some $20 picture frames and things? I’m sure you’ll want to display your wedding photos etc. I intend to stick to the guides I’ve seen for quantities in price ranges when we put togehter our registry.
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I wouldn’t worry about it. If they don’t want to spend that much they can just give you cash or a check. Alternatively, I think they can buy a gift card on the registry and you can put it towards whatever you want. Did you only register for 12 items total across both registries or was that just BBB? How many guests? I would maybe add to the registry for a little more variety.
Post # 16
@mousepeach: oh shoot. this reply showed up as I was typing mine. sorry for the double information!