(Closed) mom thinks registry info on the invite us tacky?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1288 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

It’s generally considered in poor form to list the registry info on the invitations. If you have a wedding website I’d list it there or just let your bridesmaids and parents know where you’re registered and they can let people know who ask.

I don’t really think it’s an inconvenience — you can spend 5 minutes plugging a couple’s names into various online registries. That’s what I’ve always done when I’m a guest.

Post # 4
2186 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

it is in poor taste to put the registry info on the invite.

the only possibly acceptable way is to include an insert with the invitation that has the info on it, or the most popular way is to include an insert that says “for further information please see the wedding website…www.whatever.com” and post registry information there.

registry info on an invitation is a no-no because weddings do not dictate that you have to bring a gift. so therefore its inappropriate to assume that they have to bring one if they come.

on the flip side is is VERY appropriate for showers to put registry info since the purpose of the shower is to shower the person with gifts.

Post # 5
2821 posts
Sugar bee

Perhaps you could include a card that has your wedding website on it.  That could have your registry info on it but not be quite so direct as putting the registry info right on the invites.

Post # 6
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I know where you are coming from.  I get seriously annoyed with all this ettiqutte bs myself.  That being said, your mom is right 🙂

Post # 7
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Etiquette says not to put registry info on the wedding invitations.  (On shower invitations it’s OK.)  Your family and friends are supposed to help spread the word about where you are registered.

I know a lot of people do put registry info on the invites nowadays.  I personally am opposed to it.  I say it’s your call!

Post # 8
1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It truly depends. I know my Maid/Matron of Honor was TOTALLY against me putting it in. However – everyone – my husband, my mother and everyone else I asked was like “then where do you put it then???” and so they all ASKED me to put in in the invite somewhere.

I didn’t put it ON the invitation itself – but instead put a tiny little note on the bottom of the hotel information (included in the invitation envelope).

My Maid/Matron of Honor was against it though because she’s like seriously miss etiquette! lol.

Personally – I’m happy we put it in there. Course, the funny thing is – so far – with three weeks to go – my Maid/Matron of Honor is the only one who’s bought anything FROM the registry!!! (yes, I stalk, lol).

Course, at this point – I’m hoping no one does and we just get money… :p

so my vote – put it somewhere in there just not on the invite itself.

Post # 9
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I did pocketfold invites and put the registry info in there. I’ve had about twenty calls from people saying thank you for including it as they wouldn’t have known otherwise. Personally, I am with you. If you don’t put where you are registered then I assume you want cash.

Post # 10
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

We didnt’ put it anywhere on our invitations. I think it’s irrelevant to know the registry info when you get an invitation, the whole point is will you come or not? Then, if you want to buy the couple a gift your first option is anything you darn well please. After that, if you want to buy them something they registerd for, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out how to find that info. Call a bridesmaid, parents, search on the knot.com.

Putting it on the invitation is rude because you are telling the invitee that they have to buy a gift or should be thinking about it. I mean, they should! But it’s not your place to dictate it.

Post # 11
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

Listen to your mother on this one.  For years and years people have been able to figure this out on their own.. I promise your guests can handle it.

Post # 12
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Some people don’t really care if the info is on the invite but if your mom says it looks greedy most likely your family members will agree with her or have the same pov. I agree with your mom though, put your registry info on your website, bridal shower invites, and let your mom and mil and bridal party know where you’re registered that way when people ask them they will let them know.

Post # 13
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Technically it’s not proper to do so, but I think this varies greatly by location and region. In my area, it’s expected and considered rude to NOT include the registery info (though we do so on a separate card).

In all honesty, no one will think any different if you include it or not – they won’t remember in a year anyway. If you feel that strongly about it, go ahead and include it. Just keep in mind that it might not be worth starting an argument over.

Post # 14
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My mom included mine (against my wishes) on our accomodations card insert.  I’ve been convinced by other bees that this is alright so I’m not so worried about it now.  Definitely do not put the registry info on the actual invite but I think you can get away with having it on an inserted card if you’d really like it included.

Post # 16
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You’re mom is correct – it is considered poor etiquette (tacky) to put registry information anywhere on an invitation.  It is generally only acceptable to put registry information on the shower invite, because gifts are the point of a shower.  Other than that, spread where you’re registered through word of mouth.

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