Mom vs Step Mom

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

@shortie1848:  Was your mom going to be able to go in the morning in the first place? If it were me, I’d probably go in the morning to sign up for stuff and hang out/not do anything important until mom gets there. That way they’re both involved.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@shortie1848:  Why can’t the three of you go after your Mom gets off work? You can still sign up for all the freebies and giveaways. (Tip for that- take some return address labels- especially the free ones that charities send you- saves a bunch of time writing out your name and address).

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@shortie1848:  If you said the get along, why would your Mom change her tune? Is it possible she wasn’t able to change her schedule as easily as she first thought?

You could go in the morning with your stepmom, your Mom could join you for a late lunch, then you could see the rest of the fair with your Mom.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I was done at the expo I went to after about two hours. I’d wait until the afternoon when all three of you can go together, or do another expo.

another tip: use an email address specifically for the expo. I’m *still* getting stuff periodically, and I was married almost a year and a half ago!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I dont think moms should have to take a back seat to SMs.  I can see why she was upset at SM taking over sister’s wedding.  I would be more loyal.  If your dad wants a role, that is fine, but unless SM raised you (not talking about everyother weekend), I would be careful about letting SM take over. 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d split the day! Do 10-12 with your step Mom, then 2-5 or something with your Mom!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@shortie1848:  Most of these events have some sort of refreshments available. It might not be the fanciest lunch, but it would be one way of bridging the morning with your stepmom, and the afternoon with your Mom.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I don’t know about where you live, but around here there are multiple bridal shows a month. Maybe you could go to this one with your step mom so you can go earlier like you wanted and go to another show with your mom. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Great suggestion MistySoda.   Trying to push them togethor is not a great idea.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Shortie, only you know all the family dynamics.   My mom was the one I lived with, the one who told me I had to do my homework, and couldnt stay out with boys.  My dad and SM took me to the beach every other weekend.  It too me a few years to understand why there  was tension betweem me and my mom.  At the end of the day, I dont let SM be a mom.  She is family, she is dad’s wife, but not my mom.   If someone has to be politiely told “I’ve got that covered” – it will be SM. 

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