Post # 1
so the latest issue….
My mom wants me to tell the groomsmen not to wear earrings….in this wedding ( which by the way is black tie…even though I specifically asked her not to make it black tie)…I think this is f*ing ridiculous..they are grown men, professionals, and always look nice…how do I look asking our best friends please not to wear earrings..they may not even want to …but if you are spending money to come be in someones wedding do you want the mother of the bride giving you wardrobe requirements?
Post # 3
Who is paying for the wedding?
Post # 5
Then you should probably try to make your parents happy. I don’t think it is unreasonable to ask your groomsmen to take out their earrings for just one day. If you were paying for the wedding yourself, then you could do anything you wanted too, but since it is your father paying, then you kinda need to go with what your parents are asking. Sorry.
We are paying for our own wedding, so we don’t have this problem.
Post # 6
yea, I see your point..I wish I could afford to pay for my own wedding..I just think that even if someone is paying…there should still be a limit to how much they control
Post # 7
Are you really going to be able to notice the earrings? I mean, unless they are wearing 1ct. or higher rocks in their ears, is it going to be that distracting? My groom and some of the groomsmen have their ears pierced, and we are having a formal wedding, but none of them really wear obnoxious earrings so we arent too worried about it.
I could see asking them not to wear them if they were just completely distracting, otherwies I would not let mom get too stressed out about it. 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Honestly, I think that’s kind of a silly request. If she honestly would be upset if they didn’t take them out, then maybe. But…I just think they should be able to keep them in.
Post # 9
LOL exactly..no one is wearing diamond hoops or dangly diamonds except me!..she just doesn’t like the idea
Post # 10
You could always say you asked them, and then they can do what they want on the day.
Post # 11
I guess you could ask, but I don’t think they are in any way obligated to.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Man, it always upsets me when I hear about someone’s parents wanting to control things because they’re paying. It almost feels like the money comes with strings attached, i.e. “We’ll pay for your wedding, but only if you do it our way.”
I can understand your mom wanting input on the big things, but this earring thing just seems ridiculous.
Post # 13
For something so trivial, I would just tell mom that I asked them not to, and if someone happens to be wearing them on the day of… oh well 🙂 Earrings are not the end of the world.