- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
My fiance and I were supposed to get married early this summer. We’re just out of highschool and have been together for years. He was supposed to go into the marines and support us with that, but because of medical reasons he was not able to.
We both have jobs now though- he has a full time job and I’m working part time.
My parents let him move in with them and this summer I’m moving back home from school. (We’ll be living in the same house but in separate rooms)
We told my mom the other day that we think it would be easier on everything if we go ahead and get married now at a courthouse and we can have our real wedding later on (even though it wasn’t our first choice, it’s what we want to do now).
She never answered me or said anything about it to me. She told my nana that she thinks that we are being stupid, immature, and irresponsible, and that we are not thinking about the future because we are not “finanically stable.” And then she told my fiance that we can not live with them if we do that.
I’m trying to get a better perspective on what she means. I am going home next week and my fiance told me she is planning to sit us down and she’ll have some budget drawn up that should prove to us that life would be miserable if we go ahead and get married.
I’ve already drawn up my own budget though, using our combined monthly income. Together, we make about 1,400. And although we don’t have much spending money left over at the end of each month, we’d even be able to afford our own apartment and utilities and phones and food and insurance. My car is already paid for so we don’t even have to worry about that.
The only thing I can think of that my parents are thinking is school, but my school is already completely paid for (unless my parents decide to yank my college fund).
Are there any mothers out there who can help me understand this and better prepare for what to say to her? I find it ridiculous that my fiance and I will be in the same house but unmarried– to me, it’d obviously be easier if we were. They wouldn’t have to worry about our temptations, we could share a room instead of myself moving into my sister’s room, and we would even be able to afford to pay them rent!