Post # 1
So this morning, my boyfriend told me he processed, thought it through and is ready to talk about our relationship and give me all the answers I am want to know this weekend. This weekend I am going to find out if he is ready to commit.
Not sure if this is the right place to write this but I need to put on paper what I am feeling. A little bit of the background:
Over the holidays, my boyfriend of 1 year and a half had a few serious talks about our relationship and I put all my cards on the table. Both of us are in our 30’s and have full time jobs so we pretty much have all our ducks in place. We are almost done with law school and graduate program, our education will be completed this year.
I said to him in a gentle way (I am very proud of that fact):
1) I know who I am and I know what I want for my life. I want marriage and I will NEVER change my mind about this. This is a definitely non-negotiable point. If you do not want marriage you need to be honest and fair to yourself and me and let me go so I can search for someone who wants the same thing as I.
2) It is not that I do not love but you have to decide what kind of life you want to live and I also have to decide what kind of life I want to live. If we have opposite opinions, there is no point to keep going.
3) Please give me the courtesy of not giving me half truths and false hopes and say things like the following:
a. I am not ready now but you never know what the future might hold for us.
b. I need something more definite that I can hold on. It still keeps me in limbo and I do not want to live like that.
Post # 3
I am proud of you for standing up for yourself! I hope your weekend talk goes well! GOOD LUCK! And stay strong and stick to your goals, even if it’s not what you want to hear.
Post # 4
Sounds like you had an open and honest conversation. Good luck!!!!
Post # 5
Good luck- I can not wait to hear how it turns out!
Post # 6
Good luck, keep us updated, please!
Post # 7
Good luck!! I hope he decides that marriage is for him and you are not worth losing.
Post # 8
I like the way you laid it all out in the open. I think more relationships need that kind of honesty! Best of luck!
Post # 9
Good for you! It sounds like you’re being very honest with him and realistic. Hopefully he does the same for you.
Post # 10
I commend you for standing up for yourself and not letting him get away with the ol “you never know what the future might hold” string along line. Good on you! Good luck this weekend, I’m looking forward to hearing how it goes.
Post # 11
Wow, you put that all wonderfully. Good for you!!! Please keep us posted and good luck!!!!
Post # 12
I’m very interested in following up this story. Good luck girlie!
Post # 13
@KS240030: Kudos for you being honest and letting him know how you’re feeling. Also, good for him for being mature enough not to freak out and to want to sit down and talk with you. That at least shows he cares about how you feel.
And yes, please do keep us updated!!! Good luck! Sending positive thoughts your way.
Post # 14
You are taking a very mature approach. Best of luck to you!!! Let us know!
Post # 15
I’m really impressed that you were able to be so put together about all of this! In my head I would be thinking clearly about all of this just like you articulated, but then the minute I sit down to talk about it with my boyfriend I’m ugly crying asking why he doesn’t love me! Hahaha!
So anyway, kudos on your mature convo, and I hope he has some good news for you this weekend. (Also, kudos on your patience! If my BF knew what he wanted for his future I would have made him tell me RIGHT THEN and not wait a couple days!)
Post # 16
i hope it goes well for both of you