- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Just a small rant about all the things my mom has done to piss me off since we began wedding planning:
1. She purchased her dress for the wedding without consulting me or mentioning that she was even planning on going shopping. Then, she texted me a picture of the dress like 2 days later and I see that it’s basically white. WHITE. She claims it was “ice blue” in person, but in all the pics she sent, that dress was white. Maybe it’s just the way it looks in pictures, but still…I don’t want have her looking like she’s wearing white in my entire wedding album. She did begrudgingly return the dress and we did end up going shopping together where she was able to find something much more appropriate. Regardless of the color of the original dress, I was more hurt that she didn’t even think to include me in the process. If I had gone wedding dress shopping without her, she would be livid…but she’s never been able to put herself in other people’s shoes and constantly makes selfish decisions (so I don’t know why I’m surprised).
2. She booked her hotel room outside of our room block. She’s staying in our hotel for 4 nights and she and her boyfriend booked their suite outside of our block. That’s a problem for a couple reasons—we need to count those 4 rooms in order to hit the booking numbers we need to per our contract, and my Fiance and I have spoken with her about said room block on no less than 5 separate occasions. When I asked her why she didn’t book through our block she said very defensively (which means she was lying…which is another one of her lovely traits), “We tried to, but they said we couldn’t since we’re staying in a suite.” That, my friends, is total BS because our contract explicitly says upgrades at each suite level are possible. I know damn well that she just didn’t listen to anything either of us said regarding the hotel block because she’s so f’ing self-absorbed and everything (wedding-related or not) goes in one ear and out the other. Now, I’m stuck sorting out her hotel booking mess with my contacts at the hotel. Similar to the dress fiasco, it’s not that she booked outside the block that really gets my goat, it’s the fact that she didn’t care to listen to a damn word either of us said.
3. On Saturday, I spent about 45 minutes making blingy iron-on shirts for the entire wedding party including my mom and MOG. They’re kind of like these:
I was excited with how they came out, and since I wanted them to be a surprise, I texted a pic of them to my mom instead my Maid/Matron of Honor (who has been my rock through this). She responded, and I quote, “Why are you wasting your money on these?” Now, I’m sure she thinks I bought them and that they cost way more than they actually did, but still…would it kill you to say something positive even if you didn’t like them?!
I guess I had some idealized Father Of the Bride version of how wedding planning would go, and that my mom would want to be more involved…instead she just writes checks once in a while (for which Fiance and I are unequivocally grateful) and bitches about decisions we make (although we’re paying for 90% of the wedding). Meanwhile, my dear Future Mother-In-Law is constantly consulting me on her every move and she’s been sweet as pie. My dad (who’s been divorced from my mom since I was 3) said that I’m almost 30 and I need to stop expecting my mom to change—she is who she is and I need to be ok with it. I know that’s right, but it’s hard to do, especially during something as emotional as the wedding process.
Does anyone else have any crazy mom stories or am I on my own here?