Post # 1
does your dh still call his mother “mommy”? it really bugs me because he’s a grown man (in his 3rd decade of life). i feel like mil has trouble letting go. it’s kind of hard because he comes from a rather sensitive/emotional family. i have no idea how to approach this. i’ve jokingly teased him about it before but i don’t know if he gets that it kinda creeps me out. she also has a cutesy nickname for him (like something you would use for a 5yr old).
anyone else have this problem?
Post # 3
my hubby doesnt but i would be a teeny bit freak by it so i understand what you mean…. please tell me she isnt a kiss on the lips kinda mum
Post # 4
WOW – I don’t have that problem but it would bug me too!!!!
I think sometimes both of us (myself and FI) call our mom’s mommy if we are joking around with them asking them to buy us dinner or something silly! For instance when my mom buys me something when I would just buy it myself I always say “Thanks Mommy” like I am 5!!!!
But if he did it on his own all the time I think I would be quite creeped out by it!
It reminds me of the SATC episode where Charlotte walks in on Tre in the bathtub with his mom in the room!!! LOL
Post # 5
@eloping. luckily they are just a hug kind of family. i don’t think we would have made it to the altar if they were a kiss kind. LOL.
he doesn’t say mommy all the time. usually when he calls her on the phone. but the point is, i’ve heard him do it! i hope this is a transitional thing seeing as how we haven’t been married that long. let’s hope it is!
Post # 6
oh wow, that would totally creep me out too lol, my fiance doesn’t do that but it does bother me that his “mommy” has such a hard time letting go, it’s so bad that I dread seeing her car pull up in front of our house!
Post # 8
Just this summer I had it pointed out to me by a family friend that I still call my parents Mommy and Daddy- but ONLY when I talk to my sister. Weird.
I had no idea that she and I did that. We both call them Mommy/Daddy, but only when we’re talking to each other. When speaking to others it’s Mom/Dad.
My husband doesn’t seem to mind. I don’t know why it’s big deal if it’s a term of endearment.
I’d probably have a harder time dealing with a husband that addressed his parents as Mother/Father.
Post # 9
My husband still calls his mom and dad Mommy and Daddy. It doesn’t bother me; like rosychicklet, I just consider it another term of endearment. Anyway, he’s never said it bothers him when I kiss my parents/relatives on the lips. 🙂
Post # 10
I can see where that would creep you out a little. He’ll always be his mother’s “little boy”, though. My FI’s mother calls him some cutesy little name, but it’s in spanish and I really can’t remember what it is. No big deal for me. And she’s an air-kiss on the cheek kind of person.
Post # 11
LOL @Future Mrs. Martin!!! That episode of SATC was hilarious!! It would definitely bug me if FI had a “Trey and Bunny” relationship with his mom, hahaha! Luckily I don’t have that problem… he just calls them plain ‘ol Mom and Dad.
Post # 12
I always hate the words mommy and daddy. Even when i was growing up and I heard my friends calling their parents that it would make me sick to my stomach. In my opinion, once you are older than 3 you should start calling them mom and dad.
I would voice your concern more with your husband. I wouldn’t stand for that childish behavior!
Post # 13
Yeah…that wouldn’t slide with me.
I haven’t called my own mother mommy since I was like 5 years old. I call her by “mother”, and my fiance calls his mom by “mother” too.
Post # 14
My dad calls his mother “mommy” most of the time and he’s in his 50’s. I have never considered is creepy, BUT I can see how it could be taken weirdly… if it really bothers you, better to talk it out now than for it to end up being some big, blow-out-of-proportion thing when you’re married… 🙂
Post # 15
Honestly…I think it’s weird that my SO calls his mom “mother” or “ma’am”. I can’t imagine calling my Mama either of those…I alternate between Mama and Mommy and Mom, generally Mama though.
Post # 16
That would kinda bug me. My FI doesn’t but his aunt calls her mom (FI’s grandma) Mommy. And it bugs FI’s dad SO much. Not sure if you could follow all of that, lol. Anyway, it would definitely bug me and I’m not once to mince words so he would definitely hear about it from me.