- 4 years ago
I’m so excited to be getting married! But my mom…
Okay, here’s the deal. Jason and I have been engaged for less than a month. About three and a half weeks, actually. We’ve set a date and know that there are a few things we really want in our wedding and in our engagement–particularly the fact that we’d like to keep it quiet for a bit, maybe a few months. Maybe till fall. Christmas. It’s a long engagement (his mom and dad had a four year engagement and were married for years before Jason’s dad died; they had a wonderful marriage that Jason and I want to model ours after). If my parents had their way, we’d be married this summer-they got married in a rush and have a very rocky marriage. But Jason and I don’t want to get married until 2016. And we don’t want to make a big deal about it for quite awhile. We’ve told our parents and siblings-after telling them that we don’t want anyone to know yet and that we want to announce our engagement in our own time, in our own way. But Mom?
She’s told everyone. My priest, my aunts, my uncles, all her friends…even my grandparents. Other than Jason, my grandpa is my best friend. I really wanted to tell my grandpa that I’m getting married and that I want him to walk me down the aisle. And I’m pretty sure she’s already told him that, too.
Am I going to be able to tell anyone that I’m engaged? I was so looking forward to telling people, seeing the look on their faces. Letting my cousin know I want her little girl to be in my wedding, telling my grandpa I want him to walk me down the aisle. Telling the oldest of my younger sisters I want her to be my maid of honor. Mom told her. And my mom has always commissioned someone to make the cake, she’s already planning the decor for my reception. She’s even bought some of the decor. Generic glass plates and a candalabra that’s very pretty, but I’d like to have a say, particularly as I’m paying for part of my wedding-or thought I was, at least.
What do I do? I kind of want to cry-Jason talked me out of it, pointing out that I have three years before the decor has to be decided on and that it’s not nearly as important as the fact we’re getting married. But still…I want the small simple ceremony and huge party afterwards with the Tim Burton influences-not the cute girly wedding my mom and her friends are planning. But most of all I want to be able to tell my family and friends I’m getting married-instead of them telling me they know when I tell them or them calling me to congradulate me when I haven’t told them personally.