Post # 1
My SIL went into labour and after 49 hours my beautiful neice was born via a c-section. Now I need to find a way to help them. She is feeling all of the normal things right now: the blues, very sore, tired (she pushed for a long time before they decided to do the section) etc
So here is where your help comes in. . . What can I do for them?
I considered freezer meals but I don’t have any good meals that would last and he is lactose intolerant. Or is food a waste since her parents are currently staying with them.
I bought her favorite snacks (because I thought it would cheer her up), made a quilt, and brought flowers but what can I do to help them?
Post # 3
Well, if her parents are currently staying in i am sure the meals will be solved, which is a great thing! A nice visit, a cake, flowers, that’s all i would love to have!! Oh..and hours of sleep!!
Post # 4
Gift certificate to local takeout place. Do they have animals that you could walk or take out for them? Help clean the house so she doesn’t have to worry about it. Basically anything that is going to allow her to only focus on her recovery and the baby. For me those things would be food, help with animals, cleaning, laundry.
Post # 5
That’s very nice of you, how considerate to want to do something for them! For my friends that have just had babies, a few weeks after when they are settling into a schedule I give them a date night. I babysit for them and send them out to a really nice dinner with a gift certificate. It’s so important that new parents remember each other and that they take some time to be a couple. If they are uncomfortable with leaving their newborn for that long of a time, offer to babysit while they have a date night in, order them some luxe take out, movie rental, etc., and you do the childcare. Best of luck!
Post # 6
@lovesweetlove: If they have freezer space food would be great, I know I appreciated everything and we had plenty for weeks. If food is taken care of you could volunteer for anything they may need – running errands, housecleaning, even helping care for the baby so the new Mom and Dad can get some sleep. Just knowing you’re there for them to help out will mean the world.
Post # 7
How about a promise that you will deliver some meals AFTER her parents are gone. Usually new moms have lots of help the first few weeks, but starting in Month 2 that extra help starts to slip away and she would still appreciate it I bet.
So I would let her know that in two months you will be delivering a freezer meal (there are plenty without lactose) such as pulled pork and buns or lentil soup or stuffed bell peppers etc.
Post # 8
Thanks for all tha advice!
I’m currently dog sitting for them and have made sure the house is clean and laundry is all done for their arrival home. Since her parents are at the hospital almost 24/7.
Guess it looks like for now I’ll just keep doing what I’m doing and do up the meals if her parents leave before their scheduled date. (As of now they plan on staying until after Christmas, both my SIL and BIL are not the happiest with that decision. lol.)
Post # 9
@lovesweetlove: Holy heck that is a looooong time – ouch. Well in that case,they have able babysitters there then the best thing you can give them is some fun! Seriously, help them remember that babies are wonderful, truly a gift but there are other parts of their lives that are important also. In three weeks take them out for a fun night, no talk of bottles or diapers or sleep schedules!