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I don't know which one to pick. My mum didn't have any say, but also didn't particularly want any. I probably would have taken her opinion into account.
Not at all. Though my mom wasn't pushy or even really offering suggestions. I was living across the country when I was dress shopping, and I sent her pictures of ones I was considering. She was always, "That's so beautiful!" I think she would have been happy whatever I picked--and she loved the dress I wore! So it all worked out.
My cousin recently got engaged, and her mom is very opinionated about her dress! She keeps stressing that my cousin needs a dress that makes her feel like a princess, and my cousin is like, "I don't want to feel like a princess!" They have two very different styles!
@cameronwedding: Now I'm curious about you! Did your mom have a say?
My mom had a bit of say, but she was really cool about the whole thing. She was honest, but she also made sure that I knew that my opinion was the most important. The second time I tried on the dress that I ended up choosing, I asked her what she thought, and she said, "I honestly liked [other dress I had tried on previously] better, but this one still looks absolutely gorgeous on you, and you look so much happier in it. Your smile in this one is just glowing. You should choose this one."
I found my dress in a magazine about 6 months prior to even dress shopping. It was the first one I showed my mom, and she loved it! 6 months later, it was the first one I tried on and ended up buying. It made both of us cry. I think the fact that my mom liked it gave me that extra validation. Although I'd like to say I'm a tough ass and don't care for anyone's opinion but mine, my mother's opinion weighs heavy with me. If I buy something she doesnt like, I can't truly be happy with it.
I definitely wanted my mom's opinion, especially because I knew she would be honest and I knew she wanted me to be happy (so she was keeping my style in mind). In general, we get along well and have pretty similar ideas of what looks good and what doesn't, so it wasn't too stressful, luckily :)
my mom had SOME say....but she LOVED every single dress i put on....i couldnt even pick because she cried every time i came out in a differnt one....we had a pep talk the second time around before i went back to put the deposit dow....lol
love my mommy!
She wouldn't really give me her opinion too much because she said she wanted it to be completely my decision. We actually have similar taste and I could totally tell when I tried on a couple that she didn't like, LoL. I didn't like them either, so it was no problem.
@parasol: My mom didnt say anything but get what you want cause you have to wear it not me...LOL.
Thats a famous line of hers
My mom loved a different, more sexy, dress tha I just didn't feel like a bride in. I appreciated her thoughts and opinion but in the end I bought a dress while I was alone without any influence.
@cameronwedding: I think I like your mom! Whenever people (like siblings, future in-laws, friends, etc.) would ask me what I wanted them to wear, I had the same response. It's like, you're 20+ years, old, I trust you to dress yourself! :)
my mom doesn't even know that i HAVE a dress yet. she's the sort of person who gives objective opinions on that sort of thing and would support whatever choice i made on my own, so it's kind of an invalid question for me anyway. but i voted, no, it's my dress.
@cardus: WERE DATE TWINS!!! LESS THAN A YEAR TO GO...YAY
My mom is normally SUPER opinionated, but for wedding dresses, she pretty much just kept her mouth shut. She would always ask me how I felt, and I would explain what I did and did not like about each dress. The only thing I can recall is her asking when I tried on a poofy ballgown with no sparkle on it, she asked me how I felt, and I said I didn't know. And then she asked me if I was bothered by the lack of "sparkle" and said she was all about some sparkle. I ended up narrowing it down to two dresses. And then called her to make my final decision and pretty much just voiced my opinion on both dresses and used her as a sounding board until I had decided. After I made my decision, she said "Good, cause that one was my favorite." Turns out it was everyone's favorite. It made me feel good that even without asking any of the four other people that went with me, we all had a unanimous feeling about my dress. (Oh, and it was definately the sparkliest of the dresses I tried on. lol :D)
This is an iffy question. My mother and I have similar taste, but even if we didn't, she knew it was my dress and my decision regardless of what she had to say.
I thinksecretly a lot of women look for mother's approval.
No way!!! It's my dress. I did not ask her to pay for it, so I am going to wear what I like.
@MsFoxxy: <--- same.
My Mom was very quiet and respectful.
She teared up a little bit in the first dress I put on, at the first store (it was a big ballgown) - but she was quick to point out it was just that she was so happy to be with me trying on dresses (I drove 6 hours so I could dress shop with her).
I really wanted her input though: and she was very quiet during all of my trying-on, I was little worried...
But as soon as we found the dress, and started talking alterations (she has seamstress skillz) she got really involved. She had just been giving me space.
My mom and I have very different taste but somehow I narrowed down my choices to two dresses we both really loved. However, I liked option A more and she liked option B more. It probably took me longer to decide because of this difference of opinion but I ended up going with the one I loved more. later on my mom told me she was so happy that I went with the one I liked more because that dress really was made for me and as the wedding took shape, the other dress just didn't seem to fit in as well.
So basically, yes I listed to my mom's opinion but ultimately went with my gut.
I'm lucky I never had this problem. My mother describes my dress as "completely untraditional, but still f*cking gorgeous " so I feel good about her liking it ;)
I don't think I'd give my mom any say, she'd likely put me in something frumpy, and then complain that I look fat. She's not one for fashion, either.
FI's mom would *love* to take me dress shopping, but our tastes are a bit too different... I'd say she has better fashion sense than my mom, so I'd probably weight her opinion a bit more heavily.
I'll probably just go by myself.
I brought my mom and sisters with me and they did have their opinions but ultimately they let me decide.
My mom had zero say, and surprise surprise, she doesn't like my dress. She wants me in the big poofy ball gown carrying a massive bouquet of red roses. Both of those things are just NOT my style at all. She threw a small tantrum at the second place we went because I refused to keep trying on ballgowns after the 5th one she made me try. However, the gown I went with made me and my maid of honor cry, so I consider that a good sign. :)
i actually ended up buying my dress with my mom cause she is very straightforward. if it made me look rounder, or emphasized areas i'd rather it didn't she was very honest. but she was still very supportive of me trying on a variety of dresses and wasn't pushy at all. it was my decision at the end of the day.
I haven't picked my dress yet, but we've gone dress shopping once. My mom doesn't have any SAY but i'm definitely taking her OPINION into account. But in the end, the decisions is all mine.
It was important for my mom to love it... shes my mm and we're super close... like super duper close.
I think my mom liked one other dress a tiny bit more but she loved mine because I loved it
Actually I described what I was looking for to the consultant and while she was pulling dresses, my MOM actually found my dress and suggested I try it. I was instantly in LOVE! The consultant pulled NOTHING that I had described or ever would consider wearing. So my mom was the saving grace :)
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A friend of mines recently got engaged and went this past weekend to look for a dress... She said she found THE ONE but her Mom does not like it. They have 2 different styles and is not feeling what she wants.... Did you allow your Mom to over rule your dress choice?