Post # 1
Trying to figure out a bridal shower etiquette problem. I graduated from high school *cough*14*cough* years ago. While in high school my mom became close friends with some of the other mothers of my classmates. I was never that close with the classmates–we got along well in high school, but haven’t seen each other since.
My mom is still very close friends with the moms–and I know the moms better now too. The moms are invited to the bridal shower. But should I invite their daughters/the girls I went to high school with? (We aren’t even facebook friends). It feels awkward inviting them as we haven’t talked in 14 years, but it also feels awkward snubbing them and inviting their moms. If I do invite them, I don’t want it to seem like an attempt at a gift grab.
Several years ago my mom was invited to a wedding and a shower of a different high school friend, and I wasn’t. It didn’t bother me, (I wouldn’t have been able to go anyway), but it was strange.
What do you think?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t. If you aren’t friends with these girls then why would you invite them? You mom is friends with the mothers. Of course, if a mother asks if her daughter can come, then you could say yes.
Post # 4
@SuprBooper: No. The daughters are independent adults (aged 30 or more by the sound of it) and don’t need to be invited just because their mothers are. The mothers are your mother’s friends in their own right. It’s not an unusual situation. My mother is still friends with the mothers of some of my childhood friends, girls I have lost almost all contact with.
Post # 6
I don’t think that’s necessary. My mom became close friends to one of her colleagues who also happens to be the mom of one of my HS friends (that I don’t really talk to). When he got married, my mom was invited but not me. Same thing with the baby shower that came later. The way I see it, it’s their friendship so if his mother wanted to use up one of her guest slots on my mom, then it’s all fine and dandy.