Post # 1
OK. So I typed all this out and the bee ate it – so. Try 2
My husband and I are moving in May and I’m due end of June. I’m trying to work out our future sleeping arrangements. I’m worried about SIDS of course but also am looking ahead to having to get her in her own room eventually. I’ve come up with what i’m thinking is a nifty idea and I want to see if I’m missing some glaring issue with it. New place has 2 bedrooms. 1 has a sunroom off of it and a big closet – eventual mommy and daddy room. The other one has french doors with glass (I can put curtains over the glass) that will make an adorable nursery. So my plan is as follows – Put the crib and our bed in the eventual nursery and sleep there at first. She starts out (hopefully) in her full sized crib, but right near me and DH. Then when it’s time to have seperate rooms, we just taper off sleeping in there. She will already be doing naps and early bedtime in there by herself at that point so it won’t be such a huge change for her- she might like us to not disturb her. And we have a guest bed set up in our room so 1- guests can stay there at first and 2- we can just start sleeping there as the transition. See what I’m doing here is trying to put the ‘change’ on the adults as much as possble and have all the SIDS recomendations met. So the only down sides I can see is it really crowds the room and we won’t have that picture perfect nursery. But that’s mostly for the adults. IMO Babies don’t care about decoration at that age. This will mean glider in living room as well. Upsides – because we will have 2 adult beds set up we can sleep in our room earlier if she seems ready or if she’s sick or having issues one or both of us can spend the night in there. Eventually of course we take the extra bed down and put it in storage. Prob set up a play space there. Am I missing something here? Apparently what I’m suggesting is fairly unusual and honestly I tried to mail a letter and failed twice last week so I might have some baby brain happening.
Post # 2
I think this idea is great. With our baby on the way, we plan on rooming him/her in our bedroom for quite a number of months before we even set up the nursery. It’ll be a bit crowded, but it’s a lot easier on me, and the risk of SIDS is also lowered!
For us, the babies room with our first DD was pretty useless until she was able to get herself around and play with things. She did sleep in her nursery, but that was about it.
Post # 3
We had our little one with us in our room in a bassinet for his first 5 months. However, had your plan been possible for our house arrangement, I would have definitely considered it. It seems like you really thought this through and I think it’s an awesome plan. The biggest benefit is, if it doesn’t work out, you can change it pretty easily :). Best of luck with the move and baby!
Post # 4
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your plan! I will say though that we tried sleeping DS in our room at first and it was a horrific failure. We kept waking each other up all night, babies grunt a lot when they sleep and every little sound sets you off worrying. So he made the transition to his nursery pretty much instantly and everyone was a lot happier. But with your arrangement you can do that as well so you have all your bases covered!
Post # 5
I could be totally off but I thought babies didn’t sleep in full sized cribs at first. My nephew slept in a bassinet all swaddled at an angle so he could breathe better. It probably depends on the baby.
I think the room you’re talking about is fine though.
Post # 6
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Most mommies of newborns I know just use a little bassinet in their room for the first few months instead of a crib. Every family and baby is different. Your plan sounds good!
Post # 7
Sounds like a great plan. Let’s hope your little one agrees! My baby will only sleep if she’s in bed next to me 🙁
Post # 8
keesl: I had a bassinet with wheels on it when my son was small. he slept in there almost exclusively until he grew out of it. That way he didn’t get used to sleeping with us, but also wasn’t in another room. Plus that dang bassinet saved me so much! I could just wheel him from room to room while he was sleeping during the day so I could get things done instead of relying on a monitor.
But it sounds like you have a plan and it doesn’t sound like a bad idea!
Post # 9
Thanks everybody! I couldn’t figure out if this was crazy or not. Yeah the theme is ‘flexible’ and ‘not too much reduntant furniture’. But I totally have scoped out a bassinet in case the crib doesn’t work. I just want to make sure we need it before we buy one. In the short term she’ll have a inclined rock n play thing that can get us through 1 night (hopefully) till stores open.
Post # 10
keesl: I have a 3 month old, so I am just going through this. I say, be loose with your plan. I wanted my son in my room with me for 6 months. He outgrew his bassinet at like 9w and I moved him to his crib. He was a good sleeper from the beginning but I was waking up at every single noise. Since he moved to his crib we have both been sleeping so well. Just be flexible! A lot of my mama friends have been nervous about moving baby to his/her own room and they all say everyone is sleeping better.
As for the flexibility- it really will serve you well to not have plans for anything baby related set in stone! Oh and be careful with the rock n play. Lots of babies get flat head with those!
Post # 11
To me, a bassinet makes sense and would be worth it, both for a cozier, more secure feeling place to sleep for the baby, and for the inconvenience of having to move to a crowded room and then move back, yourselves. Another advantage is that you will have a quiet, nearby place to go when the baby wakes up at night that won’t disturb the sleeping spouse.
As you say, the baby won’t know the difference, and if you transition to cribs for daytime naps, the adjustment is seamless. For us, it also gave us the flexibility to finish decorating the nursery, since we did not know the sex ahead of time, plus we wanted to wait until after the baby was here. But cribs are certainly approved for newborns and if your strategy works for you that is really all that matters.
Post # 12
mamadingdong: That advice goes against current recommendations that babies should be in the same room, but not in the same bed. As the OP mentioned this is associated with a significant reduction in SIDS.
Post # 13
weddingmaven: The only advice I offered was to be flexible. I shared my own experience, which is pretty much what she was asking. I never said “don’t share a room with your baby.”
I’m not sure what you consider to be significant or even where you find any specific statistics as to what degree room sharing decreases the incidence of SIDS to use the phrase “significant reduction.”
There are several risk factors to avoid and room sharing is recommended but there is no data that show an associated risk reduction. And I am not opposed to room sharing- I did it. And I planned to do it longer, but things changed.
Post # 14
I think it sounds like a great plan! It’ll probably make the transition much easier once she goes to sleep by herself.
I cannot recommend the “babybay” bed highly enough. It’s perfect for when you’re breastfeeding Because you don’t need to get up at night.
DD is almost 9 months old and still sleeping in her babybay – that is unless she’s sleeping in our bed in between us 😉 (when she wakes at around 4 am, I tend to just fall asleep and leave her in our bed.)
Post # 15
Sounds like a good plan if it works for you and baby that’s all that matters! I second pp of having a loose plan and realizing things may not work the way you planned!