- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
Hi bees I am sorry this is going to be so long but I really need to vent to someone! I recently got engaged (June) and I was really excited. We got engaged on vacation and when i called to tell my mom she just didnt seem as excited as I had hoped. When we came home she had put up a picture and a little congrats banner and gave us some champagne but since then she doesnt want to talk about weddings or look at anything with me nd keeps saying we should even get married for years. we are not financially where we want to be yet and dont plan on a date before 2014 or 2015 because we are paying for the wedding oursevles but we want to start planning early so we get what we want and dont overstress ourselves. We both agreed that we wouldnt look at venues until we had a decent guest list from both sides. His parents have agreed to get together with us to set up a prelim list but my mom wont even sit down with me to give me an idea of who she wants to invite…. she even started yelling that i should just get the list my aunt and cousin made for my cousins wedding in oct… she is stressing about getting my deadbeat brother into college (which he has no intention of attending) and expects me to help her fill out all the paperwork, financial aid, transcript requests, his schedule, and my fiance got stuck taking him to take his placement exams and register for classes while she stayed home all day… my aunt has been really supportive just saying that she is tired and stressed about my brother and has looked at a lot of stuff with me… i have taken a back seat to my brother for years and im really tired of helping my mother with his stuff without any thanks or reciprocation and I feel like taking a half hour out of the day to sit with me to make a list isn’t an outrageous thing to be asking…. I am not asking her to even put a cent towards the wedding… i just want so input…. I am asking too much? I feel like she doesn’t even want me to get married she keeps telling people it wont be for years… or not til I am 30 or things like that…. both of my recently engaged friends have already set dates for 1-2 years from now and are getting things set in motion and I cant even get support from my own mother… ARRGHH!