(Closed) mom's not excited VENT

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I understand you wanting your mom to be excited about planning a wedding with you, I really do but 2015 is a ways off and it can be hard to get excited about something that’s so far off. You being the bride are all about it and I know your excited to jump in. A piece of advise, take some time at least the first year and just look at different options without committing. What you want in the beginning is almost nothing like what you will want in the end. Believe me it will be like two completely different weddings. It will be easier to make those changes if you haven’t locked yourself into contracts or dresses too early. Give mom a break, trying to get your bro off to school is happening now and you have plenty of time.

Post # 4
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369 posts
Helper bee

It sounds to me like your mom believes that right now, your brother needs her help, but that right now, you don’t. You have 3 years to plan the wedding, so it’s not an immediate/pressing issue, whereas getting your bro to go to school is more immediate. If she needs to take the time to help him with his college stuff now, then you should understand that. Clearly she DOES care about your engagement if she took the time to put together a little celebration for you – she’s just got bigger fish to fry right now than a wedding that is a few years away.

Post # 5
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170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree with everyone else. I went through the same thing; I got engaged like a year and a half ago and our wedding isn’t until next May….only now, at about 10 months out, are my family and FI’s mom really talking wedding things with us. Mabye you can take her out to lunch or something and you can bring up general ideas for your wedding, but don’t expect too much until at least next year. In the meantime, just occupy yourself with how you visualize your own wedding, such as theme, decor, general size and scope, etc. I know it seems like forever but it’ll go by quicker than you think and then I’m sure your mom will be quite excited to help you plan!

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