(Closed) Mom's of one or more…

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I have a two year old. Ideally I wanted my children to be 2-3 years apart. But he was a surprise so I’m not trying to have more kids just to have my ideal age gap.

Things I think about: Would it be easier to have them all in diaper ages at the same time so you can get it over with around the same time, or get one off diapers then have another one and start all over. Same with bottle feeding/etc.

I really don’t think it makes a difference as far as them getting along, I know siblings that are 13 years apart and best friends, and some that are 2 years apart and hate each other, vice versa also.

I think mine will end up being 3 to 5 years apart.

Post # 5
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6010 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

My daughter is 2, and my son is 3.5 months.  They are about 21 months apart, and we hope to have a third child with similar spacing.  It just worked best with our timeline, as far education, careers, etc… goes.  Also, we wanted to get all the diapers/sleepless nights/etc… out of the way at once.  I have difficult pregnancies thanks to hyperemesis gravidarum, but for me, I’d rather get all the pregnancies out of the way and over with rather than spacing them out.  HG made my second pregnancy difficult, but it would’ve been tough regardless of DD’s age, so that didn’t affect our fmaily planning very much.

Honestly, people judge either way.  I get a lot of comments about how I “have my hands full,” or how I “need to slow down.”  One of my DH’s co-workers refers to us as “breeders” and just a week ago or so a family member told me we “need to seriously consider other forms of birth control.”  I just smile and nod.  🙂  I really don’t care what other people think about our family plans; we are doing it this way because it’s what works best for us, and frankly, other people’s opinions don’t really matter.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

My girls are 10 and 3 and then we have baby #3 due in December. I was really young with #1 that explains the long gap. I think ideal for us is 3 years. The biggergap was nice because they are at such different stages that there wasn’t a lot of rivalry. They get along great.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Mrs. Spring:  Gosh, people are rude!

@urchin:  I think your planning ideas make a lot of sense for you and that’s what’s important.  I also think people just like to talk to hear their own voices!

I always figured we’d have our kids close together (note: we don’t have any kids at all yet but will be TTC next month) but only because I’m 30 and feel some pressure to get all the baby-making out of the way before I turn 35.  :S

Post # 9
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2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I have two daughters, 18 and 11. They both were not planned plus I was only 16 when I had my first, that is why they are so far apart. I dont regret having my girls and I am ok wiith the gap in between. My new DH and I are planning on having a baby together. He does not have any and we would love to share that joy together. I know there will be a big gap in between but its ok, my girls can share in the joy of watching their baby sister or brother grow up. 🙂 

Post # 10
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349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

 I have two little munchkins. My daughter is almost 3 and my son is 14 months (they are 21 months apart). I had always hoped to have them about 5 years apart because I wanted my eldest to be at school before number 2 came along so I could give as much of my love as possible to one child at a time.

 My son, however, had other plans and now I wouldn’t have it any other way. Being so close in age they are really great wee buddies. They play together so well and they really are each other’s best friend.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@PrincessConsuelaBananaHammock:  That is so cute.  I would have loved that, maybe this time around we will go the a second closer than I had my other kids. 

Post # 12
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Mine are almost 3 years apart.  My daughter is 16 and my son 13 (wow, I know I started pretty darn young, but now I feel really old…where does the time go)!  I didn’t plan it that way.  They were happy little surprises!  My daughter was almost out of diapers when my son was born, and then bam, right back into diapers she went.  That was the worst of it though.  She was old enough to want to help with the baby, and I think it was pretty good spacing.  She wasn’t too much of a handful for me to not be able to deal with both of them comfortably. 

Post # 13
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471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well my oldest son is 16, my daughter is 7 and my youngest son will be 3 in September. I know all about age gaps. The age gap between my first two was mainly because my oldest son has autism and I wanted to get him in a good place and really thought for awhile he may be an only child. Actually all my kids get along well with the age differences and I wouldn’t want it any other way.

Post # 14
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471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well my oldest son is 16, my daughter is 7 and my youngest son will be 3 in September. I know all about age gaps. The age gap between my first two was mainly because my oldest son has autism and I wanted to get him in a good place and really thought for awhile he may be an only child. Actually all my kids get along well with the age differences and I wouldn’t want it any other way.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

#1 and #2 are about 3 years apart and it was so smooth and seamless and perfect. #2 and #3 are 18 months apart and it is driving me bonkers. 🙂

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