Post # 1
Hi bees, I was looking for some advice…my mother, who is my best friend, scheduled her elective knee surgery for June 11. Which is when my husband is going on a week-long work retreat to Breckenridge, CO with the other directors of his company…and spouses are invited. We would only have to pay my airfare and I’d get a whole week’s free lodging in a hotel and condo with everyone.
We haven’t taken a vacation longer than a weekend trip in like 3 years due to money and health issues, and this would be awesome – I love outdoorsy stuff, so I could hike, bike, go rafting, shopping, etc while my husband’s working…but i’m going to feel terrible not being there for my mom. She’ll be in the hospital for three days. I know it’s not life-threatening, and my dad told me to go and have a good time and not worry about my mom…but I’m still going to feel bad…I know if I had to have surgery she’d be there…am I overreacting?
What would you guys do?
Post # 3
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She’s going to be in the hospital for a few days and depending on how she does, they may want her to go to a rehab facility for a few more after she is released from the hospital. I would talk to her about it and let her know you really want to be there for her but the trip opportunity is there. Maybe she could move her surgery by a few days since it’s elective? It’s almost two months away so I would assume it’s not a life or death situation.
Post # 4
I agree, you should have another conversation with your mom & tell her how you are feeling. If your dad will be with her, I think you should go & enjoy your vacation. If anything happens you could always fly back early.
Post # 5
I’m very close with my mom, and she would just about murder me if I missed a fun trip to sit around with her and watch her watch TV and do PT. Have your phone available just in case and enjoy your trip!
Post # 6
Could you be with your mom for the first couple of days, and then join your husb afterwards? I am very close to my mum and would want to be there with her. I’d have a heart-to-heart with her and see what she wants you to do.
Post # 7
I would go. Your Mom will understand. She will have your Dad there for her 🙂
I would feel a little bad too, my Mom is also my best friend. But since the surgery is not life threatening I think you are ok.
Post # 8
I think my mom would want me to go. Does she have other people who will come hang out with her?
Post # 9
Wow you guys are all awesome! I think she WOULD want me to go…I just don’t want to seem like a jerk and leave her alone. You all make good points.
MariContrary: Exactly! It’s kinda why I don’t want to tell her, b/c she’d practically book the reservations FOR me. 🙂
peonyinparis: That’s a good idea, I hadn’t thought of that. Maybe that’s what I’ll do..
I don’t even want her to know I have the opportunity… you guys are right and I should have a conversation with her. i’m going to sleep on it for a couple days and then make the decision.
Thank you for all your input! 🙂 🙂