Moms who kept your maiden names– is anyone hyphenating Baby's name?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I didn’t change my name in my previous marriage.  The kids have their dad’s last name, but their middle names are chosen from my side of the family.  I definitely did not want to saddle my kids with a hyphenated name.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

Coming from a child that has lived her whole like with a hyphenated last name, dont do it! Chose one or the other. I am so excited to be married soon, and too have one last name. As a child its confusing and you get questioned all the time.

When people ask, i tell them to use their imagination. I have been tempted to have an explanation beneath my name so people would stop asking. 

It isnt a big deal, a question is a question.. but in all reality its just a name. I would have loved for my parents just to give me one!

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I didn’t change my name to Mr. LK’s, but our kids will have his last name. I have no desire to inflict hyphenation upon my child. The adults that I know who choose to hyphenate their own names have found it very annoying to deal with. I don’t want to do that to my kid. and since Mr. LK’s line would otherwise die with him, wheras my line has oodles of the next generation, it makes far more sense for us to choose his name than to choose mine.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I decided to hyphanate after getting married, but our kids will just have DH’s last name.  

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Nikkimcq:  +10000 hyphenated names are more of a burden then you realize. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you have an issue with your name “dying” then give your maiden name as your childs middle name.  I actually have a relative who de-hyphenated his name when he got married a few years back.  He stopped using one of the names because it was getting annoying and then dropped it when he was married to make it easier on his wife and kids. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Swizzle:  I have a hyphenated last name, and i totally understand the annoyance! 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Everyone I knew growing up that had a hyphenated name eventually dropped one of them. I don’t know any adults that use a hyphenated name (at least not that I can think of off the top of my head)

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Every time I think about this, I think about the next generation of children, when two people with hyphenated names get married, and have kids.  Then the next generation.  Then the next generation.  How many names do we stop at.  Obviously someone would come up with a solution at some point – in fact there are a few conventions for this already – but it just gets so complicated, after a while, and most of the names would end up getting dropped/lost, anyway.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

HopefulForLittleOne:  How does your DH feel about using your last name to keep the line alive? It’s a bit unconventional here in the US, as we are a patriarchial society, but it is a valid option. If the situation were reversed, I know Mr. LK would be okay with using my last name to keep it alive, but I also realize that not all guys are that “progressive.”

Post # 13
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Busy bee

Duncan:  haha i never thought about this!! Very good point!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

DH is a smith and I have a very unique and special last name so it was a no brainer to keep it when we got married. Once we started thinking kids we talked through every option and it was DH who suggested and pushed for baby to take my name. So in the end she only got my last name. Had DH had a better last name we might have combined, used one for a middle,  or I would have taken his. Do what feels and works for you.

On that note I go have to admit we actually got hassled for it by the ssa woman in the hospital. I can’t believe she has never encounter it before but we do live in teen pregnancy baby daddy drama SC so she didn’t believe why we were married with different names and naming baby mine. Just be prepared to get judged for your decision and not let it bother you. She is our child and it’s our decision. 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper

I hyphenated my last name to prevent this issue so that our child will use my DH’s last name and it will still technically match mine. I didn’t want to burden our child with the frustration of having two last names.  I have always gone by my middle name and goodness knows it is frustrating when your name is seemingly complex or complicated to the average person.

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