- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
So, DH and I have been talking about our future lately and especially about kids, which is really exciting! However, there is one thing that makes me nervous. My DH travels a lot for his job. Just this year he has been gone quite a bit. At the beginning of the year he was gone 2 months, then after our wedding he was gone 1 month and now he just recently got back from a 2 week trip. He goes over to Asia to work with different factories that produce the goods for his company.
There’s no schedule – the visit are very random, pretty much whenever something needs immediate attention. We usually have 2 weeks notice as to when he’s leaving. His company agreed that they would not be sending him for more than 2 weeks at a time anymore but I don’t trust them at all to keep to that. They’re the type to call him and tell him that since he’s over there he should check another factory.
Anyways, the point of my post is that I have no one in my life whose SO leaves for periods of time like that for work and who have children. I feel like I can’t truly express my fears and concerns to them because they all say something along the lines of “Well you’ll have help from family members” or “You’ll adjust and get through it”. I’m sure I will. DH and I have talked about it but it’s something that we can only think about in the hypothetical and we aren’t really sure how to reassure each other about this issue. I think DH is scared that our kids would resent him for being away. His boss has told him that his daughter resents him for the time that he has spent away on business and I think that he keeps thinking about that a lot.
I would like to hear from bees whose SO’s leave for work and who have children. How do you manage it? What is the most difficult thing for you? How does it affect your child? Anything else that you might like to share or any advice would be greatly appreciated. 🙂