- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Hello everyone!! This is long….sorry!! 🙂 I’m in need of some major advice with mothers and their jealousy issues!! Ok, so my parents are divorced and remarried. Both sets of parents now have 2 kids (so 4 total) all of which are in the wedding, but we have some major issues.
My fiance and I live together, right around the corner from his parents and my parents are ~20 minutes away. His mothers job has a very flexible schedule, where she is home alot. So she has done several SMALL things for the wedding without being told. She just does it because she feels helpful, which i’m 100% ok with!! My FMIL is very much like my step-mom as far as likes, taste, creativity goes. My step-mom and mother get along for my sake, but don’t particularly care for one another. Everyone wants to be involved.
Soo we go for my dress, and I took my MOH, mother, Step-mom, and FMIL. All which I wanted to be there because I’m close to them all. Now, I’m getting several complaints either to my face or elsewhere and they are being told to me. Sooo here we go:
1. My mother thinks I should use “Mamma’s Song” somewhere in my ceremony. Its too fast for the unity candle which I thought about, but won’t fit anywhere else, let alone i’m just ok with it. She told someone close to me she is “being selfish and wants it played where people will listen” all because if all else failed I was going to play it while people are walking in to the church or eating at the reception.
2. We are down to decoration finalization, and everyone is getting jealous someone else is getting to do more. My FMIL is taking the month before our wedding off, because she is taking care of the food. This ensure she gets to get that done and help with whatever else I need her to do. She posted on FB the other day that she was taking the month off and was excited for the wedding and getting ready for it and my step-mom says “Well you won’t need our help, she will have it all done.” I said no, I’m still having everyone help she said whatever and walked away. Mind you, I gave her a special project to try to help cut down on the jealousy, apparently that didn’t work!!!
To this point, NO ONE has got left out. I’ve gone on one shopping spree w/out them w/ my FMIL because we had other personal shopping to get done. That is ALL i’ve left them out of. Nothing else has left them out, and they are going jealous crazy!!! I plan on shopping with each of them individually for their dresses so that isn’t an issue.
I’ve spoke with my dad about it, and he keeps saying it will be ok. I said I shouldn’t have to put up with this, and I won’t because its my fiance and mine’s day, not theres!!! They should be happy. He keeps saying he will take care of my stepmom and not to worry it will all be ok.
Soooo I need advice on how to deal with all this jealousy??? I’m keeping it as fair as possible, idk what else to do!!! They are driving me CRAZY!!! Please help!!!!