- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
I have been engaged for the past 6 months, and we have one year exactly till our wedding. So far it has been nothing but hell. And it’s not because of my awesome FI but, because of my mother.
She has been upset because she has no control of my wedding. Yet when I asked specifically what she would like to be involved in she doesn’t speak up. She just says how terrible I am treating her and how her mother planned her wedding so she thinks I should let her plan mine. (she lived in cali and had her wedding in pa where her mother lived. her mom had no choice but to plan it)
She has contributed no money thus far, but keeps making references that if she’s paying for this she gets a say. My father (they are divorced) has also contributed very little. So all of the expense has fallen on my FI and I. So yesterday she tells me to ask my father for more money. She says that she feels obligated to pay for this. I told her that he has said he will not be contributing any more than the little he has given, and to please stop bringing it up. what is done is done.
I told her that my FI and I are saving and fully intend on paying for everything. We would appreciate help, but so far I feel like its done in obligation not as a gift. She blew up again for the 100th time saying he needs to pay and it shouldn’t fall on her. My mom is not a rational person, so speaking to her like a normal adult is out of the question.
I am at a loss and I don’t need this added stress. We still have a full year to go, and I am not sure why she insists on bringing drama and making everyone so unhappy. She gets angry fast, and I wouldn’t put her above running this whole thing. HELP! momzilla!