Momzilla part two – reception table arrangements

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Not sure I can offer you any advice, but I’m sorry to hear your mom is being so difficult. It kind of seems like she may be saying the wedding is for the guests to thinly veil the fact that she’s pushing for what she wants.

I guess if I could offer you advice, I would say that it’s your wedding, so you should do what you and your FI want, although that’s easier said than done.

We are having long tables, too! I think that’s really something different that is coming around in popularity, particularly for more intimate weddings such as yours. I was also at a wedding recently that used long banquet tables, and I though it was much easier to talk to everyone close to me than it was trying to yell at people across a giant round table!

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@TanyaLeigh050414:  The last wedding I was at had about 40 guests and guess what… we were seated at two long tables. Talking was easy: I could talk to the people either side of me, as well as those across from me. This is actually easier than at a round table, where the people across from you are too far, so unless you are loud, you can only really talk to the people either side of you.

Unless your mother is paying for the wedding, I suggest you ignore her advice. Don’t argue, just say “Thank you for your suggestion” (or even a non-commital “OK”) to get her off your back; and then ignore her advice and do what you want anyway.

Post # 5
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Newbee

Although I’m having round tables, I prefer long ones (just wouldn’t fit in my venue, plus wouldn’t want to pay to rent them anyway). They’re traditional and trendy at the same time. And I agree that it’s easier to talk to people at long ones.  Btw, I also have no wedding party, and feel that long tables would have been a better solution for us, as we now have to pick the “chosen ones” to sit with us at our round table…LOL.

W/re the mom thing, sorry to hear about the emotional drama.  I totally hear you. My mom also started acting like that, so I stopped involving her as much in the wedding stuff and it helped mellow her out.  Honestly, you’re mom’s probably stressed out with the wedding planning (not just the table arrangements) and may calm down if you take some of her choices and responsibility away (just like you would with 2 year-old…hehehe.) 

BTW, it seems like you ARE being really considerate of your guests, as you’ve gone through the trouble of planning lounge areas around the dance floor.  

Post # 6
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8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t understand.. what exactly does your mom want to do with the tables? I mean, even using round tables, people will have have their backs to the dance floor…

Post # 7
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1487 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think long tables are a great idea. She is acting childish hanging up on you over something so trivial. I would stop sharing any more wedding details with her but the bare necessity.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I’m a MOB who thinks she is acting childish.  My 4th DD is getting married this Summer.  In our family we approach the wedding as being for the couple (as long as great comfort is afforded to their guests.  No standing for ceremony, no limited seating, and no sitting on a haybale).  The reception REFLECTS the couple and is a thank you to their guests so they are our number one thought when we choose food, venue, music, etc.  We have never had a problem with everyone walking out happy (as far as we know).

Stop talking to her about it and execute your decision.  Is she paying and demanding the venue to do her bidding?  If not, quit talking to her.

Oh, rock those shoes!  I ADORE colored shoes on brides.  My generation was so stuck on all the things you “have” to do, like only white shoes, even sides in the bridal party, etc.  I say poppycock!  (well, I don’t really say that, but it works here).

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve been to two weddings with round tables in the last two years and your mom is crazy if she thinks with that arrangement you can hear *anyone* except the two people next to you. I used queen tables (rectangular but narrower than kings tables)  – with those, you can talk to the two people next to you *and* the two people across from you. Like you, we had lounges/comfy chairs near the dance floor. Good luck, hope you get your way!

 

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