(Closed) MOMZILLA!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
1129 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sorry you’re frustrated.  I can see why it would be irritating for you – and the whole wedding dresses thing is so weird it’s laughable.  Trust me, if you don’t now, someday you will see the massive humor in that!  🙂

You mentioned that telling her face to face to back off hasn’t worked.  I’m curious – based on the examples you gave, it seems that you tell her to calm down when she goes off on a tangent, but have you actually sat her down or called to say you wanted to talk about this?  I think the issue may be that you react to her as opposed to being proactive about having a discussion about it (when she isn’t mid-Momzilla)

I had sort of an opposite issue – I’m just about to get married in two weeks and got engaged last Christmas.  I wanted to have my mom be a part of things, but she really didn’t step up until 3 months ago.  I actually had to call her and say “Mom, this is REALLY important to me and it’s breaking my heart that you don’t seem to care.” After hearing me say that, she stepped up to the plate – but it had to be a full on, proactive call where I called specifically to tell her I needed to say something.  All the reactive comments here and there never registered with her.

Post # 4
Member
485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow I want to live in your town…. We went a year out and they told us these dates were booked a  year before! I cant believe she went and tried on wedding dresses without you… I would hope her reaction isnt fake, but I could see where youd be worried.  but it is the first time shell see you in the wedding dress and it is completely different…. As for every conversation, right now shes just excited I think.   but pretty much, thats how its going to be. It is what it is … theres so many details and it sounds like just because shes not paying she doesnt want to miss anything :- just talk to her, have a serious heart to heart about your plans, and her thoughts and feelings and tell her that you dont want it to consume your life and you dont want EVERY convo to be wedding stuff… Itll be ok

Post # 5
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5756 posts
Bee Keeper

You’ll be surprised at how fast that year will go by so you really aren’t doing anything ‘too early’. Weddings are a big thing for everyone, and she sounds just excited about it to me. There are a million details involved in planning and maybe she’s just trying to help you out by mentioning some things you haven’t even thought about yet. I’d try to not be so sensitive about it or she’ll back off completely and you may regret it.

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