Monday Lunch Rant…

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
Member
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ugh, what a b. 

This happens where I work, especially now that we’re shorthanded for a couple of months. I was going at 12:30, but felt bad about shortchanging the two other guys because there were three of us who went at 12:30, so I started going at 1, when one of the other two 12:30 guys got back. Then HE started going at 1. And people just leave. I wait until almost everyone is back and then tell someone that I’m going. Apparently being courteous is hard.

Post # 5
Member
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MrsMc77:  Can you talk to your supervisor about this? Say that you need to schedule lunches so that there’s coverage at all times and have her talk to Rose?

Post # 6
Member
10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If the choices are 1. feel like a bullied doormat and 2. get attitude back, i’d choose 2. – at least i’d have more respect for myself/feel like I was standing up for something I want/need. Life is too short to play the non-confrontational girl card.

Post # 7
Member
3476 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Can you ask her each week for her plans, and if she doesn’t state any, tell her you’d like to take your break on [two specific days] at [specific times].  Remind her if warranted those mornings.  Then go those times and if she tries to go too or before you, remind her she agreed previously to it.

Post # 8
Member
1959 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Ugh, I was in an office like that temporarily and I made sure I got myself out of there ASAP.  Lunch or break time is crucial to happiness both in and out of the office, you need a little break in the work day and having to rely on someone’s personal whims for if/when you get a break is such BS.  I know you didn’t want advice and you just wanted to rant so I don’t have any advice for you but I feel your pain, hun.

Post # 10
Member
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I missed why you can’t go at the same time as her?  I’d just get up and go whenever I felt like it.  Or, try and keep track to see if you notice if she typically goes towards a certain time, and I’d jet out before she gets a chance to!

Post # 11
Member
1472 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@MrsWBS:  Yes. I agree. OP, what happens if you get up to go first? If she finds that inconvenient, maybe she’d be willing to set a schedule? Or would she just go too and you’d get in trouble?

Post # 13
Member
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MrsMc77:  I’d definitely get up first and let her know: “hey, i’m going out for lunch”

Post # 14
Member
3128 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

If you do make plans, just casually say to her, “Hey, coworker, I am going for lunch at 1pm today.” Then she could decide if she wants to go before or after.

Post # 15
Member
3476 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

“Dear coworker, I’d like to make sure you can take your lunch whenever you’d like to take it.  Will you be going at 12, 12:30 or 1PM this week?  Please let me know and I’ll plan accordingly to go a different time.  If I don’t hear back from you, I’ll plan to go at X time.  Thanks, letting me know your plans in advance will really help me to schedule my week!”

That defers to her schedule, but forces her to pick a time.

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