(Closed) Monday Morning Wedding Vents

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hugs!!!

I’m sorry that your starting out your week with such frustrations. But, smile, knowing that all of us brides go through some sort of drama and it just goes with the burden a planning such a big event!

I hope that you and FMIL can work out her stubbornness and keep the peace for you and your FI’s future sake. Even though it’s hard, try not to take her opinions personally, as well you explained, she is biased and probably just doesn’t understanding everything wedding nowadays.

As for your sisters, have you tried to talk to them at all? Maybe to one of your sisters that your closer to? I’m sure they mean well, but we are all human and it’s VERY easy to think of oneself over the bride… (I mean you should be the center of attention in my opinion! :P) but it’s hard for people to grasp that concept when they’re not the ones  in the driver’s seat.

Good luck in your planning and feel free to vent whenever needed to us! πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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2719 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Aww! I’m so sorry! πŸ™

I just had half of my FI’s family making fun of a song that we had a friend write for our first dance. THAT’s why I never tell them things til the end.

Post # 5
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326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ooooh I’d be mad at my man if he started arguing etiquette with me!  There is no way he has done as much research as I have, so he better not try! πŸ™‚

 

Surprisingly, the in-laws and I are getting along better as the wedding gets closer.  We had a rocky start at the beginning of the engagement, but I think as things become more realistic, our relationship is improving.

Now with MY mother, that’s an entirely different story.  I have gotten to the point where I’m not telling her our plans, or keeping her up-to-date on much of anything.  Her way of coping with stress/anxiety is to OVERmanage things…to the point where it makes no sense and she is visibly struggling.  These situations always turn into an argument (aka, how long guests will stay at the reception after we leave.  no one knows, and no one WILL know until the night of, so why bother arguing about it?) and I made the decision last week to just leave her on a need-to-know basis. Granted we are only 19 days out, and if I really wanted to save myself stress I would have done that months ago πŸ˜‰

Post # 6
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11327 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Ughhhh I have had a similar (non wedding related) discussion with my FI before about ettiquette/social norms. Him = its just a different way of doing things. Me = YOU’RE BEING RUDE. 

 

Why can’t guys just trust us on what is rude and not rude? I don’t ENJOY telling you that you’re rude. So if I do, I probably mean it. 

/rant. 

 

πŸ™‚ 

Post # 8
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617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Mine is my bachelorette party. My sister is my MOH and she wants to be in charge (rightfully so) but my BM’s want to help. She told one of my BM’s that I was ‘still getting humiliated’ when my BM told her I didn’t want anything cazy and that it ‘wasn’t about me, it was about everyone else celebrating me not bing single anymore’  Anyway, it’s seemed to have turned around and I’m sure it will be fine. I was just hurt that she was planning to humiliate me as part of my bachelorette!!!

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