Post # 1
So, we found a place that is PERFECT for our reception; it’s exactly what we have been looking for and it is even linked up with a restaurant that caters all events. The price to rent the space includes catering which is cool, but it is ridiculously expensive to rent Fri-Sun (and by ridiculous I mean well over 10k). To rent Mon-Thurs is only $4,000 which to me is a steal for venue and sit down catering. My question to you girls is, would it be asking too much of our guests if we planned our wedding on a Monday? Our family lives all over the state and most will be traveling 3+hrs. I was thinking family could come in Fri or Sat before the wedding and we can have the rehearsal dinner and spend time together before the wedding on Monday. This way they won’t have to miss multiple days from work. FI thinks if we do that, a lot of our guests won’t show because of work and we will be wasting money. What do you all think?
Post # 3
@Shannabee: Personally I probably wouldn’t go to a Monday wedding unless it was like my best friend or sister. Or if it was a destination wedding that I would have to take a week off from work anyway.
No one is going to drive 3 hours after the reception, so they would have to take off at least monday and tuesday… Don’t you think a thursday/friday would be more fun and easier to take off from work?
Post # 4
I wouldn’t mind, but only because my days off are Tuesday and Wednesday so I would just take off Monday. BUT, I would probably only do so if you were a close friend or family member. My situation is a bit unique for my job so I would probably be on your FI side on this one. You will more than likely have many people RSVP no, you just have to be ok with that! If not, keep looking for your venue!
Post # 5
I’m doing a Monday! but it’s a DW. We’re not saving any money though, I’m jealous!
Post # 6
@Shannabee: I did a Monday but it was a major holiday. I did have a higher decline rate (about 30%) but we didnt care. My DH is in the military and that was the only date our venue had left in the timeframe we knew for sure he would be able to come home and go on a honeymoon.
Post # 7
I’m not sure this will be a success if a large part of your family has to drive for 3 hours a Monday, then have to go back working the morning after or Wednesday. I probably would not go unless it was my sister or best friend.
Post # 8
What about doing an earlier time, like noon ceremony and 1 or 2 pm for the reception so that your guests can drive home after the reception and not get home at a ridiculously late time.
Post # 9
@Shannabee: id be more inclined to go to a Thursday wedding than a Monday one.
Post # 10
It’s ONE day. Your guests should be able to sacrifice one day. I would for someone close to me.
Post # 11
I would have to be extremely close to the person to take 2 days off of work for their wedding.
Post # 12
We’re doing a Sunday so that we can stretch our budget for our dream venue, but 60% of the guests live within a 25 minute drive of the venue….
Post # 13
I am getting married on a Monday, but we are having an intimate wedding of about 17 guests. Of those people, I think only 4 or 5 have to take the day off work specially for the wedding–everyone else is either retired or already traveling 1000+ miles for the wedding and taking time off anyway.
I think generally on the bee, people say that they wouldn’t take two days off of work unless they’re really close to you, like sister or BFF. You should probably decide which is most important to you: the day or having more of your guest list come.
Post # 14
Yeah I personally wouldn’t attend a Monday Wedding that was three days aways. When I’m working that is a busy and important day at my office, so it’s not something I would be able to do easily. Can you find a three day weekend to host the wedding on?
The only time I attended a wedding on an odd day like that is if it’s a destinaton wedding where I’m talking multiple days off.
Post # 15
@Shannabee: A Monday night wedding means two days of work off. If you have a lot of 9-5ers, that won’t work (we would only take 2 days off of work if you were super close to us). If you have a lot of teachers, medical staff, and people not working traditional hours and it is a summer wedding, it could work really well.
If you do have it on a Monday, could you do an 11am ceremony and lunch reception? That way people could get back. We were just at a morning wedding and it was great. Another option is a late night Thursday wedding (ceremony at 6, reception at 7). We could just take a few hours off and make that.
One slightly strange idea– are all of your guests from the same region 3 hours away? Could you do a bus? We were at a wedding that did that (it picked us up from a supermarket in our town and drove us to the wedding, then returned us afterwards) and it was nice having the bulk of the driving done by someone else.
It all depends on what is the most important thing to you. The best weddings I have been to were the guest-centered ones. They might not have been in the most ideal locations, but they had great food, drink, and entertainment and were super convenient.
Post # 16
Thanks bees! I REALLY wanted to make this work but I think you guys are right. I was thinking more about our immediate family and wedding party that it would be fun to have the weekend for all of us, but if didn’t take into account all of our other guests…:(( I hate that places jump the price so drastically for weekends! I could see us pushing it to Thursday, but I kinda feel like it would be the same issue.