Post # 1
So, my question may confuse a lot, but also may be familair with a lot. In my mediterranean culture, it’s expected to give money as a gift for a wedding. Me and my fiance are used to this and are under the impression we will be reciveing money. We actually perfer this, however, my question is, should we still register somewhere?
Post # 3
you can register on websites which the guests can ‘contribute’ to things, instead of actualy buying them. whatwewishfor.com does this, so you upload a picture of a TV and say $500 or something and people can contribute money. This way you can choose whatever you like. Put a picture of a beach and write ‘an island honeymoon’ or something. Working for us so far!
Post # 4
do you have non-mediterranean guests who might not be accustomed to always giving money? are you really picky about what you bring in to your home and what you need/want?
whether or not to make a small registry depends on those things.
Post # 5
we are hoping for mostly money as we do not live together yet and need to furnish an apartment/house but of course we are not outright asking for money. we did however do a registry for the things we absolutely may need ( towels, kitchen/ bath stuff) those kinds of things. and nothing is really over $40. but i am slo having a bridal shower so we had to register for that. like i said, while we prefer money we wanted to give our guests options and dont want them to feel like they have to give us a lot or spend a lot of money on us. and whnever FH and i go to weddings we always give money.
Post # 6
@NorthernLights: I think it would be fine to have a registry of household items to refer people too should they ask if you’re registered anywhere. As long as you don’t advertise it (tell people you have a registry instead of waiting to be asked), you’re fine.
However, please, please, please do not do one of those uber tacky (that’s right, I used the “t” word) registries that ask directly or indirectly for money. They are beyond vulgar and unnecessary as those who want to give cash will do so without being prompted.
Post # 7
Thank you everyone! I dont want to make my guests uncomfortable. I will choose a place where I can register and select household items. I too do not live with my fiance yet and we do need to furnish our future house.
I would never in a million years ask for money as I too think its very tacky. I just didnt want to make any guests not used to this custom feel confused if I didnt register but now I know for sure I will, just have to figure out where.
Thank you all for your help 🙂
Post # 8
@lisa105: The OP was not asking for advice on honeymoon registries, therefore it is not necessary to degrade all the people who have had them.
Post # 9
I would actually suggest using a site like Myregistry.com. I used them for my registry because it allowed me to receive cash gifts or my guests could choose to purchase some of the gifts i added by contributing cash for me to use towards the purchase of an item.
This is good on both levels because my guests were given options to buy a gift for me or just make a cash contribtuion.
Check out http://www.Myregistry.com. Hope this was helpful! Good Luck
Post # 10
@beauteeny: also.. Myregistry.com is a universal registry so you can tastefully register for household items from many stores under one gift list
Post # 11
@NorthernLights: My FI and I also have the same background. We are registering because we do not currently live together and we will need a lot to start.
Usually for a wedding shower it is about 50/50.
The actual weddings are typically cash gifts.
Post # 12
@crayfish: I was actually providing a counterperspective to the first response to the OP which advised her to “register” at one of those ghastly “gimme cash” places.
Further, if people feel “degraded” by using one of these sites, its because they realize how tacky they are – not because of anything I say.