(Closed) Money dance?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Did you do a money dance?
    Yes : (12 votes)
    18 %
    No : (50 votes)
    77 %
    What's a money dance? : (3 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We didn’t get married yet, but there is no way there will be any money dance at our wedding.  I don’t know how it started but the point is to get the bride and groom started in their new lives with a little extra cash.  (At least that’s what I’ve been told and it makes sense 🙂 )  Basically the ladies pay some money to dance with the groom for a moment, and the dudes pay to dance with the bride.  At weddings I went to as a kid, I remember people would pin the dollars to the bride and groom.  I’m sure this could get painful, not to mention who wants to put a ton of pins in your dress and suit?!  The recent weddings I’ve been to, the honor attendants just collect cash in a basket.

    For me personally, my guests are taking time out of their weekends (or for some, their entire weekend) to celebrate with my FI and I, not to mention the gifts they may have gotten us.  My goal is to make them as comfortable as possible on my dime, and this doesn’t include squeezing a couple extra bucks out of them.  Just my opinion.

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I dunno… I think its maybe a little bit gauche to have a money dance. Alot of guests are coming from far away and spending money on presents, plus ALOT of people don’t carry cash anymore (I sure don’t) so they would be caught unprepared…asking for money straight up just doesn’t seem proper.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I know (think?) it’s really traditional in Hispanic families. The tradition is supposed to be that the money the couple receives from the Dollar Dance is the money they take with them on their honeymoon, because back in the day the newlyweds jetted off to their honeymoon without having time to go through their cards and gifts.

    I’m still undecided if we’re going to do this or not…

    Post # 6
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    990 posts
    Busy bee

    I never understood the money dance – it seems rude and kinda silly to me. Why should guests pay for a dance? It just seems not to make much sense because they are coming to the wedding, most likely bringing a gift (how rude if they don’t) and I dunno, I think it makes people feel uncomfortable.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’m going to be doing the dollar dance. My parents did it-we aren’t of any origin that it’s tradition for. We just want a little extra for the honeymoon. They don’t have to dance then if they don’t want to-no ones making them dance. It’s just fun-& guests should know that.

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I like the idea of getting a little face time with your guests.  I went to wedding where this was done and I had a lot of fun with it!  But if you asked me before that I would have thought it was cheesy too!

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I think the best thing about the money dance is getting to dance with, and have a little one-on-one time with, a few of your guests that you might not have chatted with for very long otherwise.  I actually tried to come up with some cute alternative to the money dance, without asking for cash, and couldn’t think of anything. 

    Post # 11
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    We did a dollar dance, largely at the request of my parents.  It ended up lasting over half an hour, which surprised me!  It was really nice to be able to dance with so many of our guests who probably would not have gotten out on the dance floor otherwise, and chat for a few minutes uninterrupted. People came prepared for it, because the dollar dance is something that is expected in weddings in our family.  (And by prepared I don’t just mean “brought spare cash,” I also mean “didn’t feel awkward/confused about its existence or think we were terrible people for doing it.”)

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I have never been to a wedding where there wasn’t a dollar dance!!  I love it I think it is so much fun and I have never heard of guests being put off by it.  If they don’t want to pay one dollar they don’t have to participate.  We are def doing it. 

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I really don’t care what other couples do but I always thought it was kinda tacky.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’ve been to some weddings where it was bad, and some where it was good.

    The bad side of things I’ve seen? Creepy old uncle Frank had a few too many glasses of champagne then got in line to dance with the bride over and over and over again; a loooooooooong line to dance with the bride and no one in line to dance with the groom besides his aunt and his mom, who kept switching back and forth; an older woman sticking money in the groom’s belt (as if he was a stripper); bride had a purse for the money and accidently whacked groom on the head with it when someone twirled her around.

    The good? lots of laughter and chances to dance with everyone (even those who didn’t really dance much else); a live band that could keep the enthusiasm going as long as there were guests in line to be enthusiastic; silliness, like the groom’s (male) roommate getting in his line, or a married couple rigging the line so they ended up dancing with the bride and groom at the same time, then twirling and trading so the bride and groom unexpectedly found themselves dancing together for a few minutes; guests who were really involved with what was going on, rather than just milling around with cake (it can be a very fun ‘group’ activity, because it’s fun to watch if you’ve got a goofy crowd at all).

    Seems like the couples who I’ve seen do this well do it more for the sake of the fun chance to hang out and sort of ‘play’ with their guests, not as much for the money. If you’re going to do it, test run a way to collect the cash – that old lady wasn’t clear on where to put it (most handed it to the groom, who put it in his pockets) and went a little crazy. A friend with a basket or jar standing nearby to work both lines might be a nice touch, rather than making the bride and groom juggle the cash on the dance floor.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    My DH really wanted to do a money dance but I put the axe on it. He badgered me about for a long time until my mom one day said, “one thing that really bugs me at weddings is that dollar dance… so tacky!” So he finally dropped it 🙂

    We were at a wedding in May and they had a dollar dance (after he finally put it to rest) and said “look at how successful the dollar dance was! They had to extend it for 2 songs becuase so many people wanted to dance with them!” His argument was that people you may not get a chance to talk with are willing to dance with you so he saw it as a good thing. Whereas I thought it was tacky AND was scared everyone lining up to dance with me would be a bunch of old men who I would’ve felt so awkward having to dance with!!

    Post # 16
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I honestly think it’s kinda rude to call the money dance tacky since it’s traditional in a lot of cultures. Guests don’t have to do it, it’s an optional thing. In my hometown it’s actually quite popular and almost everyone does it. They dance a few moments with the bride/groom and you get extra money for your honeymoon and what not.

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