Money Dance

posted 7 years ago in Music
Post # 3
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165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I plan on doing a money dance. Part of me doesn’t want to, but our families insist too. I’m having our DJ be in charge of it since he said he’s done it many times.

Post # 4
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234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m also doing one as per my mom.  I told my DJ I don’t want it to take all night so he says to make sure the MOH & Best Man keep every one moving quickly.  DJ is also chosing the songs for this dance.

Post # 5
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Okay, I realize a lot of people claim the “money dance” is tradition but etiquette and I personally find them revoltingly tacky and embarrasing.  Seriously – your guests are coming to your wedding and (most likely)  bringing you a gift and you want to shake them down for cold, hard cash?  Not nice.  I would be extremely offended if I were a guest and probably just leave the reception. 

Post # 6
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@ta27: Okay, so, not only do your guests have to give you money they have to be rushed to do it quickly?  I just don’t see how that’s being a gracious hostess or treating your guests very kindly.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We did it! We used “If I had A Million Dollars” by the Bare Naked Ladies. I wish we would have thought of a second song, because we would have gotten more if we’d done a second round! = )

Post # 8
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375 posts
Helper bee

@lisa105 I think you have the wrong idea. Money dances area a ton of fun and can be done without being tacky. Just encourage people to only give $1 to dance with the bride. It not my family’s tradition, but my SO’s family loves them and it’s been in their family for ages. In fact his grandpa cried because it meant so much to him that the bride did a dollar dance. I’ve even been to some that you get a shot of liquor after putting a dollar (that’s right a dollar, not a hundred!) in the bag. Most guests said it was the best part of the reception.

It’s not a shakedown, it’s a way for everyone to dance with the bride!

AND the poster didn’t ask if you thought it was tacky! She asked for song ideas!

Post # 9
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5499 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@lisa105: keep in mind that it’s tradition in a lot of Cultures and that you shouldn’t be too quick to judge.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Despite being “tacky” and/or “rude”, we are having a dollar dance as well. This is at the request of FI’s family. It is tradition for them & everyone seems to be looking forward to it. I refuse to use anything w/ the words “Money” in the title or song. Hopefully this thread will give me ideas as well, cause I’ve yet to come up w/ anything!

Post # 11
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@His Barista: Cute song choice!

 

In my experience, dont you just give a dollar to dance with the bride? (unless I am not remembering correctly). I think at only a dollar, it is not a big deal. It is cute and we are probably doing it at our wedding also!

Post # 12
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Why can’t the guests dance with the bride for free?  And sorry, but you’re wrong – there is no way to do a money dance that isn’t tacky or doesn’t look greedy.  There is no getting around that you’re shaking your guests down for cash regardless if its $1 or $100.  And sorry, but there is no cultural tradition that says its okay or proper to embarrass your guests into giving you money.

Post # 13
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543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

well i guess im being tacky! lol I’ve never been to a wedding without a money dance. Maybe its a southern thing.

@lisa105: no one is MAKING people participate in this. So if anybody at my wedding doesnt want to they dont have to. I’m not expecting $100 or $50. I’m sure most people will put $1 and im fine with that! But i think it’ll be nice to personally speak to and dance with people that have attended my wedding. Just because you don’t like it doesnt mean you have to be rude and tell us we’re all wrong for doing it.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve never been to a wedding without one, either. lol.  ; )

I thought people would just give us dollar bills, but I was pulling 5’s, 10’s, and 20’s out. lol. It’s a personal preferance for the guests. The Ladies also got to dance with the Groom.

And yes. they are not being forced to participate.

Post # 15
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You should be personally going around and speaking to all your guests without making them pay you for the priviledge of spending 30 seconds with you.  This is supposed to be your first time you and your husband will be acting as host and hostess as a married couple and you want to charge your loved ones to speak to you?  Is selling out your duties as a hostess and your dignity really worth a few dollars?

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@lisa105: I don’t think this was a post to ask your personal feelings on the matter. It really sounds as if YOU have no class or tact. I’m not sure if you’ve really ventured out into other cultures, but this is the norm & expected for A LOT of families. No one, at any time, is forced into dancing w/ the bride or groom. If someone chooses not to do it, then to each their own.

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